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Is He Your Transitional Man Or Is He The One?

What is a transitional man and how can he help you find love? A transitional man (or woman) is the first significant relationship that usually comes after a long term relationship or marriage. They are someone who helps you find your footing, after a difficult breakup. I began thinking about my transitional man when I … Read more

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We’re Bringing The Beach To You For A Mini Meditation

Do you like being by the sea? I do and find it very relaxing to watch the waves coming in to the shore and out again. Many years ago, a colleague of mine who had studied self-hypnosis taught me this simple beach mini meditation and I found it so useful that I have been telling … Read more

Four Emotional Benefits of She Sheds

She sheds offer emotional benefits, keep relationships healthy by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group When Cindy Holmes-Fine and her husband moved in together five years ago, their blended family consisted of five kids, all still living at home. Although very happy to have such a large and loving family, Holmes-Fine felt like there … Read more

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The Difference Between Being Needy In A Relationship and Having Needs Is Huge

Ever know someone who was needy in a relationship? Perhaps an ex? Or maybe you? Let’s talk about it. I was talking with a client who has been in the dating scene since he got divorced several years ago, and has been really working on understanding what he needs in a relationship. He is finding … Read more

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Advice For: “We’re Getting Divorced Because My Husband No Longer Wants Children”

When two people decide they want to get married, I think most discuss whether or not they are on the same page for many, many major life decisions. This includes whether or not to have kids and maybe even how many. But what happens when you get married, and your spouse decides later that he … Read more

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Why “He Just Doesn’t Make Me Happy” Is An Unhealthy Thought

Have you ever heard this saying, “Happy wife, happy life?” Or, “It’s my job to make my husband happy?” Or, “He just doesn’t make me happy?” I so often hear people talking about being responsible for someone else’s happiness or holding someone responsible for their satisfaction in life. Think about the pressure of that statement, … Read more

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False Allegations In Divorce Must Stop

The Kavanaugh allegations have put the seriousness and devastation of sexual misconduct and assault, and the importance of justice in those situations to the forefront of America and I’m glad about that. No one who has been a victim of sexual misconduct or assault should go unheard, and no one who is a perpetrator should … Read more

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Melissa Forman Gives Tips For Blended Families

Melissa Forman is a well-loved local radio and TV personality in Chicago. I’ve listened to her for decades, and I was even a guest on her TV show a few years ago, but I never knew much about her family until I ran into her at a high school tennis tournament where both of our … Read more

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6 Tips To Staying Happy In Your Relationship

Most of us have heard of the concept of looking at our relationship with our partner as a garden that we plant and tend. The concept being that as with a garden, we plant the seeds of our relationship with another, and watch as it blooms into something that brings beauty and joy into our … Read more

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Is Getting Together With An Ex A Good Idea or A Recipe For Tears?

In this week’s Love Essentially, I offer the potential advantages and disadvantages of getting together with an ex. Is it a good idea to meet up? Maybe you need closure or just miss him (or her.) Or, will it re-break your heart? Here’s my take on it. Should This Woman Go Out For A Beer … Read more

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Divorced Girl Smiling Featured on Megyn Kelly TODAY!

I recently had an opportunity to tell my story on Megyn Kelly TODAY! What a thrill that was! Although a little scary to put myself out there and be vulnerable in front of America, (there’s a big difference between writing it on a computer and verbalizing it on national TV!) but it felt good because … Read more