Want A Guarantee for A Loving Relationship? One Word

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

I have written many articles on the importance of trust, respect, attraction and other things needed for a healthy, loving relationship. But couples will not be able to sustain these things without one component. In other words, what’s the one word that makes the difference between staying happy together or being unhappy together and/or getting divorced? Read this Week’s Love Essentially!

Can one word mean the difference between a good relationship and a bad one?

by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

Why are some couples blissfully happy together while others run the gamut from not-so-thrilled to completely miserable? Why do certain marriages last a lifetime while others crumble in divorce?

What differentiates happy, healthy romantic relationships from unfulfilling or even toxic ones?



The answer might be as simple as one word. Let me explain.


Last year, someone I know went on a date with someone she’d met through friends.


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She was excited about him, thought they had a great time at dinner and eagerly awaited the text or phone call she thought was coming from him to ask her out for a second date.

But, to her dismay, it didn’t happen. Over the next few weeks, she got random texts like, “Hope you’re doing well,” and the occasional picture of him on vacation.

When she texted to him the idea of getting together again, he’d offer only vague responses. She sensed aloofness and disinterest but she was conflicted by the fact that he kept texting.

Understandably, she was disappointed and frustrated.

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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

    One Response to “Want A Guarantee for A Loving Relationship? One Word”

    1. Melissa Mattes

      Is there any way to read this article without getting a subscription to the Chicago Tribune online? Thanks.


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