Staying With Someone Who Cheated On You: Is Marriage Counseling the Answer?


June 11th, 2020 . Lisa Kaplin

Staying with someone who cheated on you is a tough call. Every situation is unique. If someone cheats, that doesn't necessarily mean he/she will do it again. Maybe it was a wakeup call that the marriage needs help. Maybe divorce isn't the answer. Tha...

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How To Move On After Divorce As A Woman–Not A Wife


March 26th, 2020 . Lisa Kaplin

Many people wonder how to move on after divorce as a woman. What I mean by that is, perhaps a woman's life was defined as being a wife. That was her identity. Now she feels lost. This reader is in that situation: I’m struggling with a lot of con...

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My Ex Is Lying During Divorce, Telling People I’m Mentally Ill


January 17th, 2020 . Lisa Kaplin

Going through a divorce definitely has its challenges. We all know that. But what happens when during divorce, one person starts spreading lies about the other? Here is one reader's story. During her divorce, her ex is actually telling people she is ...

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My Ex Moved On And It Hurts. Of Course it Does.


November 21st, 2019 . Lisa Kaplin

From a reader: I need some advice. My ex moved on and it hurts. When he was in denial going through our divorce, we still spoke a lot. He promised that he'd always be there for me-- "you'll see, whether we're together or not, I'll be there.” He bou...

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Stop Walking On Eggshells


August 14th, 2019 . Lisa Kaplin

My clients often tell me about people in their lives who are challenging and thus cause them to be walking on eggshells. My question to my clients is always, “Whose eggshells are they?” What I am trying to ask my clients is, “Who is responsible...

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