Is wanting a divorce selfish and cruel? Here is an email from a reader who is being accused of being these things because she wants a divorce: I have been married to my husband for 5 years. 3 of those years I spent deployed away from him. We met online while I was deployed. I … Read more
There is no bigger fan of Sex and The City than Jackie P. I have seen every episode at least five times, I organized girl’s nights when both movies premiered, my comforter is still Calvin Klein Bamboo Shoots (same one as Carrie in her old apartment,) and at one point, the show’s opening song was … Read more
Most couples have some kind of conflict. What I mean is, even if you have a wonderfully happy and healthy relationship, you aren’t going to agree on everything. But here’s the difference between being happy with your partner and not: the WAY you handle your disagreements. Do you fight? Argue? Give each other the silent … Read more
With the recent Supreme Court ruling legalizing gay marriage, I have to believe: More same sex marriage will lead to more same sex divorce. In this week’s Love Essentially, published yesterday in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, I explore what the ruling means for divorce, and possible ways to cope. Gay Marriage Ruling Brings Gay … Read more
“How do I meet someone after divorce?” is a question I get asked almost on a daily basis. It inspires me that even after a bad marriage, men and women still crave happiness in this regard. However, what men and women don’t realize is, meeting someone isn’t dependent on how many dating sites you belong … Read more
This is a TRUE story that I think will help countless single or divorced women dating over 40. It has to do with getting older, body image, self-love, self-esteem, and my girlfriend who needs a good kick in the ass! Last week, she and I got invited to go on our friend’s boat. So she … Read more
Going from casual dating to a serious relationship is a huge transition. It might seem scary or uncomfortable, which is understandable. But I will say, it can also have so many wonderful benefits! I received this email from a reader: Jackie, I recently went from casually seeing someone to officially being her boyfriend. I’m wondering … Read more
As I was walking out the door yesterday morning, heading to the gym, I got a text from a girlfriend that read, “Whatcha doing? Meet for coffee?” I loved it. No planning, scheduling, cancelling and rescheduling, all I had to do was shift a few things around and an hour later (straight from the gym) … Read more
Divorce and exercise should always be used in the same sentence, as I believe that some form of working out–whether it’s weights, intense cardio, balance and core work, or even just brisk walking-helps men and women in coping with divorce and other stressful life situations. In this week’s Love Essentially, published yesterday in Chicago … Read more
I’ll never forget how excited I was to watch the final episode of the first season of The Bachelor. Would Alex Michael give the rose and propose to Amanda or Trista? I remember at the time, my now 13 year-old son was a baby, and we rushed to get him to bed so I wouldn’t … Read more
I received a sweet, endearing email from a 24 year-old worried about his mom and seeking advice in helping her in dealing with divorce and being happy again. Hi Ms. Pilossoph, My mom is the most amazing person, but she is still having a hard time dealing with divorce over 5 years later. I can’t … Read more
The dad bod trend is a craze that celebrates the cuteness of men with big bellies. But I got to thinking, is the trend really fair to Mrs. Dad Bod? In this week’s Love Essentially, published yesterday in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, I address the Mom Bod, and the reason it should be celebrated, too! … Read more
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