A common refrain of toddlers and adults alike is, “You made me so angry.” Or “You made me so sad.” Or “Because you acted that way, you made me act this way back to you.” It’s a version of, “The devil made me do it.” It’s a complete lack of personal responsibility and doomed to … Read more
All day long, we are bombarded with emails and texts, and it can get overwhelming. But how many of those messages are sent with the intent of love? A fraction. In this week’s Love Essentially, I address the importance of texting love, meaning sending nice messages to those you love and care for, just to … Read more
Everyone knows fighting in front of the kids is bad. Yet, many couples–both married couples and couples who are divorced do it. Why do we do it? Not because we want to hurt our children, but Because when emotions are running high, and people just can’t think clearly. In this week’s Love Essentially, I interview … Read more
Editor’s note: When I see Lisa Kaplin’s weekly newsletter in my inbox, it’s usually one of the first emails I click on, just because I know I’m going to get one or more of these things: laughs, entertainment, motivation, good advice, or comfort. But yesterday, I woke up to my dog throwing up in my … Read more
Several years ago, I wrote an article, titled “20 Lies Divorced People Tell themselves.” The producers of the WGN podcast, “Uh-PARENT-ly” happened to see it, and asked me to be a guest on the show to talk about each one of these lies divorce people tell, why people tell them, and how to better cope … Read more
In an ideal world, you’d simply drop off into a peaceful slumber every night. But ask any woman over 40 if that’s the case and she’ll probably tell you it isn’t, and that she wouldn’t mind sleeping better. She’s probably also tell you she wishes she knew how to sleep better with anxiety. Sleep—or a … Read more
Can a divorced person be in love with someone new, but still be unable to shake their feelings from their ex? In other words, is it possible to get into a happy, healthy relationship if you’re not over the divorce? Here is one reader’s story, followed by my advice: I had to leave my ex … Read more
Finding a new relationship after divorce or a break-up is often a wonderful addition to our lives. But, in starting any new relationship, there are inevitable deep waters that we encounter and there are common mistakes that we make in learning how to swim in the new, unfamiliar waters of a relationship after divorce. Learning … Read more
When people think of perimenopause, they usually picture a woman having a hot flash and acting bitchy. While those are definitely symptoms, they are only the tip of the iceberg! For this week’s Love Essentially, I sat down with my friend, Cheri to talk about perimenopause, the symptoms doctors don’t tell you about, and the … Read more
Are you contemplating divorce? As a divorce attorney, I consult with many people who are in this situation. Frequently, I am asked to suggest books to help them with both their decision on whether or not to get divorce, and in the divorce process. With so many books written about divorce and for those contemplating … Read more
They say “Write about what you know,” which I think is why there are countless books written on the subject of divorce. But not every author offers divorce advice via a memoir or a non-fiction guide book. Lots of writers, including Jackie Pilossoph, decided to write a novel after divorce. My reason for writing a … Read more
Here’s a synopsis of a reader who asks, “Is it better to divorce or stay unhappily married?” She and her husband have been together for about a decade. He’s a student and she has been working and supporting him financially almost the entire time. She said one problem with the marriage is that the only … Read more
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