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Back To School Tips for Parents Divorced or Separated

Back to school is such a mixed bag of emotions. With feelings of excitement and joy to stress about how it will go for the kids, this is a time of change that can feel hectic. Add divorce to the mix and back to school just got even tougher! In this article, I want to … Read more

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The Storm Out During Mediation or Another Divorce Proceeding

Sometimes in divorce negotiations, whether in mediation or collaborative sessions, one of the parties gets upset or feels unappreciated or insulted. Or they can’t believe what the other person said and feel very strong emotions, so they get up and storm out.   What Exactly is A Storm Out?   The storm out is a physical, non-verbal … Read more

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How Do You Stop Loving Someone? Let Me Count The Ways…

We’ve all heard that divorce story…about the couple who went to court on the day of their divorce, and then after it was final got a hotel room and had sex. I have heard those stories, but never talked with anyone firsthand who admitted they actually did that…until now! This reader tells his story and … Read more

Want to Minimize Divorce Attorney Fees? Read this!

There are many components that add to the stress of going through a divorce, one of them being divorce attorney fees. Usually already concerned about finances, couples going through a divorce are now receiving a new monthly expense that can seem overwhelming and scary. That said, hiring an effective attorney who puts in the time … Read more

How to Help a Child Deal with Divorce

The impact of divorce or separation can be especially hard on children—but there’s a lot you can do in how to help your child deal with divorce. If you’re a parent going through a divorce, try to remember that your child needs YOU more than ever. Signs your child is struggling during your divorce How … Read more

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What Should You Do With Your Wedding Photos After Divorce?

I’ll never forget how I felt when I realized I found “the one.” Forget the guy, I’m talking about my wedding dress! Standing in front of the mirror in an off white strapless Werkstatt gown, sophisticated with a little bling, but classy and elegant, I felt so beautiful and happy. All my dreams were coming … Read more

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Hiring a Mediator? 5 Qualities to Look For

Overwhelming, intimidating and emotionally challenging are some of the emotions that go hand-in-hand with divorce. Separating assets, deciding on a parenting plan, and figuring out your living situation adds to stress and fear. Some people call a divorce attorney and go right to court. Others decide to try to mediate their divorce, but still, hiring … Read more

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The Importance of Putting Together Your Divorce Team

When a couple decides to divorce they embark on a process that is complex and one that they likely don’t understand.  Unless a couple is educated about the divorce process or has the right guidance, their first call is often to a divorce lawyer. While in some instances retaining a lawyer is the right first … Read more

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Separated But Living In The Same House…And Sleeping In The Same Bed

 When a couple decides to separate, there are so many factors involved in what comes next. There are couples in which one person decides to move out immediately. There are couples who sell the house and both find new residences. And, there are couples who are separated but living in the same house.   There … Read more

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Should I Go to My High School Reunion? I’m Divorced and Embarrassed

When I got divorced at 41 years-old, along with so many other emotions was this feeling of being lost. I really didn’t know who I was anymore, or who I supposed to be. It was confusing and sad, and it made me feel alone. But as the weeks and months passed, I realized there were … Read more

3 Reasons Not to Share the Details of Divorce With the Kids

We all know about the feelings of anger and resentment that divorce can cause; feelings that might cause frustration. Part of feeling frustrated is wanted to vent-to tell others the details of divorce that are bothering you. You may be tempted to share the story and details of your divorce with your kids. This is … Read more

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The Newly Separated Get Unexpected Gifts

When I was newly separated, a few people sent me cards, which I appreciated, and a couple people actually got me gifts! I remember laughing while opening up a little lipstick pouch given to me by a girlfriend, and thinking, ‘She’s giving me a lipstick case as a small hint that if I want to … Read more