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My Ex Hates Me: 8 Reasons Why He’s Angry And Hateful Towards You

Have you ever just felt like, ‘My ex hates me’? Sure you have, and it’s frustrating. It’s hard to understand how a person who used to be your husband (or wife) can switch gears so abruptly in a divorce. What I mean by that is, once loving, kind and caring towards you in your marriage, … Read more

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What’s Up with the Negative Self-Talk During Divorce? Just Stop.

Ever talk to yourself? Of course you do. “Why am I being so stupid?” “Why did I say that to her?” “I hope I didn’t say anything dumb.” “This dress used to be fit so much better.” “I’m old.” “I screwed up again.” Sound familiar? I bet most people engage in this kind of negative … Read more

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Should This Woman Regret Getting Divorced? Nope.

Do people get divorced and never look back? Some do. But I think most divorced men and women spend weeks, months, years, and even decades in some cases, rehashing things that happened in their marriage, looking back and second guessing decisions they made before, during and after their divorce.  Some wonder if they gave up … Read more

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Frustration During Divorce: 20 Things You Can Do When You Feel Like You’re Going Bonkers!

Of all the emotions a person can feel while going through a divorce–fear, sadness, guilt, self-pity, anger, and resentment, one of the worst ones might be frustration. Frustration during divorce is very hard to cope with. Why?  Because frustration during divorce stems from situations in which you have no control. Frustration happens when you feel … Read more

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6 Fulfilling Things To Do as a Newly Divorced Woman

Regardless of whether it was a long time coming or you couldn’t get it over with fast enough, or even if the situation was amicable, divorce can be a messy process. It takes time, money, and is typically emotionally draining, no matter how you look at it. Yet, when the smoke has cleared, you are … Read more

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Divorce and The New Year: 12 Resolutions

Divorce, as sad as it is, can also mean new opportunity, a happier life, and a more peaceful way to live. So, when it comes to divorce and the new year, there are certain new year’s resolutions every divorced person should consider, actions that will make 2025 your best year ever! These don’t have to … Read more

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My Wife Wants a Divorce: One Man’s Painful Story

Divorced Girl Smiling received this comment from a reader. The headline: “My wife wants a divorce.” I have estimated that Divorced Girl Smiling gets about 70% of its traffic from women and 30% from men. So, this article is definitely meant to give advice to men whose wives want a divorce. But, I thought it … Read more

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Chicago Divorce Attorney Answers Your Questions

Daniel Stefani has been a Chicago divorce attorney for almost 3 decades, and is the co-Founder of the law firm, Katz & Stefani. In his guest post, Stefani offers some common questions he hears from newly separated clients, along with his answers and advice.    Common Questions Chicago Divorce Attorney, Daniel Stefani Hears “How much … Read more

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Parenting Time and Your Child’s Birthday

One of the many very difficult aspects of being newly separated or divorced is dealing with parenting time, child custody agreements, and not being able to see your kids every day. I can remember crying hysterically the first night my kids slept out of the house. Just 3 and 5 back then, I remember thinking, … Read more

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The Root of All Causes of Divorce: Resentment

There are so many different causes of divorce, and every divorce story is unique. Here are a few common causes of divorce: Cheating, excessive arguing, substance abuse, lack of sex, growing apart, physical abuse, and verbal abuse. While all of these reasons are valid and very very significant, I believe that all causes of divorce are … Read more

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How to Find Mr. or Ms. Right…AKA How To Find a Divorce Lawyer

I’ll never forget the first divorce lawyer I interviewed several years ago when I was first separated. Walking into her office a broken woman, full of fear and anxiety and lacking any self-esteem whatsoever, I actually left the meeting feeling worse (which I didn’t think was possible!) That’s the motivation behind this article, aimed at … Read more

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Should This Woman Give Up On Her Cheating Husband?

Read this woman’s email, which tells the story of her cheating husband, their trips to discernment counseling (which is a process where a couple decides if they should try to work things out or get divorced), and some of her husband’s remarks. Email from a woman with a cheating husband: Four months ago, after my … Read more