Almost every person I’ve ever talked to who is newly divorced says one or more of these things in reference to dating after divorce: “I will never get married again,” or “I’m done saying the L word, it’s just not in the cards for me,” or “I am never going to meet someone, ever again” … Read more
Platonic friendships have always been important to me. I had many male friends when I was single, dating, married, and now divorced. But are there rules of opposite gender friendships? And how do they apply to people who are either in relationships or married? Here are 4 rules of opposite gender friendships: 1. It’s … Read more
Pilossoph (third from the left) at her Divorce Party last Thursday night Many of you know that I am a features reporter for Sun-Times Media. So, if last Thursday’s event, the Divorced Girl Smiling Divorce Party/Fundraiser wasn’t MY party, I might have been there covering it, taking pictures and then writing the story for … Read more
It’s hard to believe it’s been 17 years since I went through a divorce, but I still vividly remember how intimidated I was when it came to the divorce process. I knew nothing about how divorce worked. I had never heard the words, “litigation, mediation, statute, decree, or prove-up.” The divorce process is complicated, lengthy, … Read more
We all get married expecting that we are in our forever relationship; our relationship that won’t end until we die in our sleep at age 102. That sounds wonderful, doesn’t it? The reality is, that’s probably not a high statistic (unless you live in one of the blue zones.) Before I get into why I … Read more
Try to imagine what it would be like as a kid, having all your things, your “stuff” (your clothing, books, paperwork, jewelry, accessories, mementos, body products, athletic equipment, etc.) at two houses, and constantly having to remember to bring certain things back and forth from one house to another. That’s how children of divorce feel, … Read more
Having sex after divorce is a scary thought for a lot of people. Think about it. You have slept in the same bed with the same man for what? 10 years? 20 years? 30 years? Now you are separated or divorced. Inevitably, you are going to start dating, and you are going to meet someone … Read more
I am proud to announce the release of my new divorce novel, DIVORCED GIRL SMILING, now available in paperback and Kindle on amazon.com! Much like this blog, DIVORCED GIRL SMILING is funny, entertaining, heartfelt and inspirational. It’s a root for the divorced girl while getting lots of laughs kind of book (and don’t be surprised if … Read more
They were the couple who inspired every single woman who thought she was too old to be sexy and attractive to younger men. They made it acceptable for an older woman and a younger man to fall madly in love. And pictures of them always made us happy and hopeful. But now, Ashton Kutcher and … Read more
Whenever there’s a thunderstorm, it always ends. So does a drought, a snowstorm, a hurricane, or even an earthquake. Guess what? So does a dating dry spell! I know this from experience. So, if you feel like you can’t get a date to save your life, read on! Before I was married, and then again … Read more
Ever thought about sitting down and writing a divorce apology letter to your ex? I’m not saying you have to send the letter, or even show it to anyone. I’m also not saying the divorce is your fault or all your fault. But a divorce apology letter could be a very healthy and productive way … Read more
Picture this. You’re lying in bed with the man you’ve fallen madly in love with. It’s only been a few months, (still a new relationship) but you are SURE he’s the one. He just kissed you and you feel happier and more loved and content than you’ve ever felt in your life. Finally! You’re done … Read more
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