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‘My Husband Has No Interest In Me Sexually.’ Should She Get Divorced?

From a reader: I have been married 10 years and I want a divorce. I love my husband so much it hurts to have to tell him I am leaving. We have been fighting for 4 years now, since my dad died, and even more so for the last year, since my mom died. Mainly … Read more

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Having Chest Pain After a Breakup? One Woman says “It’s Hard To Breathe”

It’s kind of ironic. You get divorced and you don’t think anything can be worse. Until…the heartbreak of your next relationship. The pain you are feeling can seriously feel physical. I have had chest pain after a breakup. And read this woman’s email to me. She’s saying “It’s hard to breathe!” I’m a 35 year … Read more

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Divorce Advice for a Young Person With No Kids

Divorced Girl Smiling received this e-mail from a young woman seeking divorce advice. It made me realize how little I write about divorce with no kids involved (with the exception of second marriages that end in divorce with no kids.) But what I want to say is that divorce is painful whether the couple has … Read more

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How to Stop Dating Losers and Meet Someone Meaningful

A DGS reader asks: What do you think I can do to draw a healthy, stable, loving relationship into my life and stop dating losers? Is it me, or is this a nicer way of asking, “How can I avoid picking complete losers and meet someone who is normal and who treats me well?” In … Read more

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Divorced Woman Asks for Group Hug

I don’t know one divorced woman or man (or anyone on earth-divorced or not) who doesn’t have days or even longer times when things seem to be imploding in their worlds. In my own situation, I describe those periods of time as feeling like I’m in a dodge ball game, and the balls just keep … Read more

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Everything My Partner Does Irritates Me. Of Course it Does!

From a reader who says, “Everything my partner does irritates me:” Jackie, Why, when people are in a serious relationship, do they sometimes irritate one another to the point where they don’t even want to talk? Is getting annoyed with your significant other common? Is it normal? I really love him, but everything my partner … Read more

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Man Thinking About Separation: Should I Stay or Should I Go?

Here is an email from a man thinking about separation from his wife. I truly feel for him because it really is a tormenting decision to have to make. Jackie,  I’m thinking about separation. A few months ago I found out my wife was cheating on me and now I’ve been left with the decision … Read more

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How to End a Relationship on Good Terms with the Prince Turned Frog

When I got an email from a reader asking how to end a relationship on good terms, I immediately thought of the famous post it note that Berger gave Carrie on Sex and The City. that read “I’m sorry, I cant. Don’t hate me.”     Here is the email I received: I recently met … Read more

Let’s Talk About Sex After Divorce–Safe Sex, That Is

Divorced Girl Smiling received this e-mail from a reader seeking advice about sex after divorce and how to be safe. I went out with a guy a couple of times and we really hit it off. Our relationship quickly became physical and in the heat of the moment, I did not address the issue of … Read more

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Dating a Coworker is Sexy but Not Always Wise

There’s nothing more romantic than sneaking into a supply closet at work with your new boyfriend or girlfriend — who is also your coworker — to start kissing. Your secret relationship from the rest of the office is sexy, exciting and fun. But, dating a coworker has its challenges, including the risk of damaging your … Read more

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Divorce Movie Sends Powerful Message

 I finally had a chance to see the divorce movie, Enough Said, a romantic comedy about dating after divorce with James Gandolfini (the last movie he made before he died) and Julia Louis-Dreyfus.  Aside from the fact that it was a delightful, entertaining story, done with great taste, amazing writing and two top-notch actors, there was … Read more