is Jackie Pilossoph's dating and relationships column, published weekly in Better Magazine
(previously in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press)

Romantic relationships are so much easier when everything in life is going great. But what happens when tragedy strikes your partner and his or her world is turned upside down?

I'm referring to the death of a spouse's parent. The devastation and other intense emotions someone feels when losing their mom, their dad or a sibling can cause a lot of stress in a marriage, especially if the spouse doesn't know how to help.

Is it really possible to be in love with two people at the same time? That's the question I think millions of men and women are wondering after watching Monday night's episode of "The Bachelor."

In case you missed it, bachelor Ben Higgins said "I love you" to two of his three finalists – JoJo and Lauren, who both said it first, by the way.