is Jackie Pilossoph's dating and relationships column, published weekly in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press

Column: Meet the 7 people who could really use your attention

By Jackie Pilossoph, Oct. 30, 2019

As I sat, cross-legged, in yoga class on a recent early Saturday morning, my eyes gently closed and my palms face-up on my knees, my instructor quoted Zen teacher and author John Tarrant: “Attention is the most basic form of love.” She repeated the phrase a few times, seemingly telling us that, by coming to class, we were paying attention to the needs of our bodies and our minds, thereby showing ourselves love. Read the entire Love Essentially article

Column: Cheating is bad, but cruelty is worse

By Jackie Pilossoph, Oct. 18, 2019

I hear lots of stories from men and women who either cheated or were cheated on in a relationship. In almost every case, someone winds up hurt. Whether the cheater is immensely remorseful and wants forgiveness or is dead-set on leaving his or her partner, the experience can be devastating to everyone involved. Read the entire Love Essentially article

Column: Forgive your parents or don’t, but either way, let it go

By Jackie Pilossoph, Oct. 2, 2019

I was in my 40s when, sitting at a restaurant one night, I realized I could no longer examine the menu without reading glasses. In the years that followed, I ended up having a hip replacement, an upper GI, a colonoscopy and, of course, Botox. Oh, I also magically gained 10 pounds. Read the entire Love Essentially article

Column: When comforting someone, what can you really do to help?

By Jackie Pilossoph, Sept. 12, 2019

At a funeral recently, I noticed a question repeatedly being asked of family members of the deceased: “What can I do to help?” Read the entire Love Essentially article