is Jackie Pilossoph's dating and relationships column, published weekly in Better Magazine
(previously in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press)

When you’re in the mood to treat yourself to a dessert, what’s your go-to? Mine happens to be the Culver’s Concrete Mixer with brownie pieces and marshmallow, a delight I discovered through my teenage son and his friends. But if you’re thinking of indulging in any kind of food or drink that isn’t exactly good for your health, Dr. Lisa Kaplin has a warning: If you’re not going to enjoy it, do not waste the calories.

The other night, my 18-year-old son came home from an outdoor get-together, and while telling me about how much fun he had, he added, “Don’t worry Mom, I wore a mask.” Do I suspect he was lying? No, but do I think he and every single one of his friends wore masks the entire time? Maybe, maybe not. I hope they did, but I guess I’ll never know, just as I’ll never know the details of the gathering. But like so many other parents of teenagers, I sometimes think that’s probably for the best. What good does the added stress do? Making sure we openly communicate, and that we are honest with each other in the larger picture is really all I can control.

I’m the kind of person who sees, hears, and breathes love almost all day, every day. It starts with frequently kissing my kids (who are teenagers, by the way,) cuddling with my dog every chance I get, and going out of my way to share positive thoughts with family and friends who might need lifting up during a tough time. But even more than appreciating family and friends, it includes my deep devotion to Chicago and to this glorious country where I’ve been fortunate to live my entire life.

Coping With the Emotional Toll of Social Distancing: Marla Levie Craven is a devoted daughter who frequently visits her 95-year-old mother, Muriel Levie at the Northbrook, IL, senior community where she lives. To Craven, the visits are anything but obligatory. “My mother is such an amazing person,” said Craven, a Glenview, IL, mom and marketing professional. “She never complains, keeps a positive attitude, and showers me with loving words every time I see her.”