In this week’s Love Essentially column, published yesterday in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, I give dating advice–ways to improve your odds of meeting someone and falling in love.
Are the Odds Of Finding Love The Same As Powerball? by Jackie Pilossoph
At least three lucky winners (in California, Tennessee and Florida) will split Wednesday night’s record-setting $1.6 billion jackpot prize. Their odds of winning the prize? A mere 1 in 292.2 million.
Despite the excitement of celebrating the winners, why are people willing to buy tickets knowing that their chances of winning are almost impossible? I can happily answer this question with one word: hope. How great is that? The people standing in those long lines show that they have optimism and faith, and that they allow themselves a dream. I love it.
But what if the Powerball jackpot prize was replaced, and instead of winning millions or even billions, you could win Mr. or Ms. Right?
I am constantly getting emails from readers asking, “What’s the best way to meet someone?” It solidifies my belief that most men and women want to find love, and that much like winning the lottery, it isn’t easy.
I sometimes think single men and women looking to find love feel like the search is hopeless. I know I’ve been there at times in my life. A string of bad dates and relationships can feel depressing and frustrating, and can even cause someone to give up.
Unlike Powerball, there really are no odds when it comes to whether or not you will meet “the one.” Fate is very much out of our control, and I believe love is almost completely dependent on being in the right place at the right time. Sounds kind of depressing, I know. But really, it isn’t. Because when you finally meet him or her, the wait will surely have been worth it.
But as out of our control finding love is, there are things you can do that will improve your odds of bumping into your future husband or wife.
Here are eight ways to improve your odds of finding love:
1. Look your best in public as much as possible. Looking better could help you feel more attractive, which in turn will cause you to exude more self-confidence, poise and self-pride. And those are undoubtedly qualities of appeal.
2. Do things to facilitate self-love. I just met a woman today who said, “No one is capable of loving someone else unless they love himself or herself first.” Bingo! But self-love is something you have to earn, and how you do that is by living a life that includes acts of kindness, giving back, treating others with respect and making the right decisions, no matter how difficult.
3. Ask friends to introduce you to single men or women. Dating is like networking for a new job. Usually, people don’t offer you employment if you don’t approach them and inquire. So, why not have the same philosophy when it comes to your love life?
4. Take the word “no” out of your vocabulary. If a friend asks you to go to a party and you decline, opting to sit on your couch and watch “Dancing With the Stars” instead, you have zero chance of meeting someone. Enough said?
5. Stop putting pressure on yourself. I hate that saying, “When you least expect it, you’ll meet someone,” but it really is true. When you start enjoying your life and doing things that make you happy, that’s when love usually enters the equation.
6. Pursue your passion. Start that business you’ve been talking about for years, go back to school, or get involved in a project you really believe in. Doing what you love will make you happy and interesting and passionate. Those things are attractive to others.
7. Strike up more conversations/be friendlier to strangers. You have nothing to lose by talking to the cute guy (or girl) behind you in line at the grocery store. Don’t let missed opportunities pass you by!
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