how to save a marriage that is falling apart

How to Save a Marriage that is Falling Apart: 5 Tips

There are so many reasons people get divorced, and every situation is unique. You might be 100% sure that divorce is right for you, but then again, you might be wondering if there’s even the slightest possibility things can work out. You might be asking, “How do you save a marriage that is falling apart?” … Read more

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How to Start a Separation: My “To-Do” List

Read the e-mail I received from a woman wondering how to start a separation. I felt like the best way to give her advice was to give her a “To-do list.” Hi Jackie, Today’s been a rough day–my husband just told me (after 14 years of marriage) that he plans to leave me after he’s … Read more

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Starting Over After Divorce At 40 And Rebuilding Your Life

From a reader: How do I rebuild my life after divorce? I’ve sunken into a deep depression and feel scared about starting over after divorce at 40. I’ve been with my husband for over 13 years and I found out that this is the third time he has cheated on me. Prior it was Internet/phone … Read more

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7 Reasons for Divorce: Each Unique but All Painful

It may not surprise you to learn that one of the most searched questions online about divorce pertains to the reasons for divorce.  I imagine that is because divorce can feel confusing, and oftentimes, it’s hard to pinpoint why exactly a person might feel ending the marriage is his or her best option. As a … Read more

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Considering a Divorce in the New Year?

For many couples, the arrival of a new year is accompanied by feelings of hope, fresh starts, new goals and more.  For some couples, the new year doesn’t bring fresh, good feelings. During the previous year (2021) as the Covid-19 pandemic continued to be a worldwide reality, the stresses on a marriage were many. Many … Read more

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Is My Husband Cheating? New Cologne And Underwear Indicate Yes

From a reader: I’m wondering, ‘Is my husband cheating?’ In the last year, my husband has taken an interest in colognes and new underwear. And, his data on his cell phone shows crazy high usage. I have asked if he has a girlfriend and he has denied it. Our sex life has diminished through the … Read more

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“How Do I Leave My Husband?” Woman Asks

“How do I leave my husband?” is a question that pops up on Divorced Girl Smiling a lot. I think this is a question that is beyond painful, and a very difficult one. It’s really, really, really, really hard to leave someone, no matter what the circumstances are. It’s hard to end something long-term, it’s … Read more

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Should This Woman Be Considering a Divorce? 8 Reasons I Say Hell Yes!

As a rule, when people ask me, “Should I be considering a divorce?” I try not to share whether I think they should or should not, and instead give my insight into their situation in hopes the answer comes to them. But in some cases, I just can’t help answering the question because my opinion … Read more

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Filing for Divorce? What Women Need To Know Beforehand

More than half of the prospective clients who call me are women.  Women tend to initiate divorce proceedings–including filing for divorce, more than men. Some women, however, may not be completely prepared for the divorce process. During the first consultation(s) I have with a woman considering filing for divorce, there are certain things that I … Read more

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The Two Biggest Obstacles In Forgiving A Cheater

Readers email me frequently, asking for advice on what to do in coping with a cheating husband (or wife). Some of them want to try to work it out, while others are vehemently headed for divorce  court. But a lot of spouses are unsure, and their indecision on whether they should stay or leave can … Read more

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I Need a Divorce Even Though Our Marriage Looks Okay

A Divorced Girl Smiling Facebook group page member posted the following question: Has anyone here been the one who initiated the separation/divorce simply because they found their marriage toxic and damaging to their mental health?  I need a divorce. My husband didn’t cheat or hit me and he strongly believes those are the only biblical … Read more

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I Think I Want a Divorce, He Doesn’t

A Divorced Girl Smiling Facebook Group member posted this to the group: I’ve told my husband I want a divorce, he doesn’t. I told him I want to separate, but then he acts like nothing happened and we never talk about it. So you’ve told your husband that you want a divorce and to separate, … Read more