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How to Empower Yourself after Divorce

Feeling empowered is essentially the opposite of feeling powerless. Feeling empowered is believing you are in control—I don’t mean having to call the shots 100% of the time—control is also controlling how you respond to situations that you aren’t in control of. Empowerment is about knowing that you’re in charge of your own life, and … Read more

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How to Tell Your Kids About the Divorce: 17 Things to Say

Thinking about how to tell your kids about the divorce? That is perhaps the most heartbreaking and difficult aspect of a divorce. As parents, we are all so protective of our children, both physically and emotionally, and the last thing a parent wants to do is deliver news about divorce to the children that will … Read more

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4 things Often Overlooked in Divorce Agreements

When clients are going through a divorce, I find that oftentimes they are focused on getting through it and getting it over with. In other words, the urgency to get past what feels like a crisis becomes the biggest priority. While I certainly understand that mindset, I urge clients to look at the big picture; … Read more

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Starting Over After Divorce At 40 And Rebuilding Your Life

From a reader: How do I rebuild my life after divorce? I’ve sunken into a deep depression and feel scared about starting over after divorce at 40. I’ve been with my husband for over 13 years and I found out that this is the third time he has cheated on me. Prior it was Internet/phone … Read more

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Experiencing Second Divorce Shame? Keep These 4 Things in Mind

Divorce is hard. Anyone who has ever gone through one will tell you that. But what happens when you get divorced, fall in love again, and then find yourself going through another divorce? Many clients tell me that second divorce is just as hard as a first divorce, mainly because they are experiencing second divorce … Read more

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Is Your Spouse Hiding Money in the Divorce?

The process of getting divorced can be a challenging, difficult and tumultuous process. But it gets even worse if you suspect your spouse hiding money in divorce. When someone is hiding money in divorce, they are committing fraud. They are breaking the law. They are actively attempting to conceal what they are doing. Sadly, this … Read more

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5 Tips for Coparenting with Someone Who Hurt You

Some would say parenting is the most challenging, yet rewarding job on earth.  I like to say it brings me my greatest joy and my deepest grief.  A bit like growing a second heart and wearing it on your sleeve everyday.  But what happens in regards to parenting when a couple decides to get divorced? … Read more

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My Ex Is In Love With Someone Else Now: How To Cope

From a reader who writes,“My ex is in love with someone else now:” I have a very difficult situation. My ex is in love with someone else now. I have been loving my ex wife for 20 years and I’m only 41. We separated about 5 years ago and our divorce was final two years … Read more

can you go back to court after a divorce is final

Can You Go Back to Court after a Divorce is Final?

Can you go back to court after a divorce is final? Absolutely. As a divorce attorney, I understand that things change. The parenting plan, finances, and life situations may look different years after the divorce is final, hence the need to possibly call your attorney and discuss going back to court, returning to collaborative process, … Read more

my ex husband is having a baby with his new girlfriend

Ouch. Advice for: ‘My Ex-Husband is Having a Baby With His Girlfriend’

From a reader: I found out my ex-husband is having a baby with his girlfriend, an affair that carried on for a long time, even during my marriage.  I am probably most mad at myself on how I could have been so blind. It makes me wonder if he ever loved me at all.   … Read more

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How to Convince Your Spouse to Divorce with Mediation

My co-mediation partner and I get weekly calls from prospective clients asking about mediation. “How do I tell my spouse I want to divorce?”  “We are friendly and do not want attorneys involved…” “We both love our children,” “This has been coming for a long time,”  and other similar questions and statements. Oftentimes, my first … Read more