do looks matter more than personality

Do Looks Matter More than Personality? They Shouldn’t.

When it comes to dating after divorce, something that bugs me immensely (and both men and women are guilty of it) are that people think looks are the most important thing. Do looks matter more than personality? To some, yes. Do looks matter more than someone being a good, loyal, committed partner? To some, yes. … Read more

blind dates

Why Blind Dates Are Still One Of The Best Ways To Find Love

When did people stop going on blind dates? When the dating app industry exploded. Dating apps are the most common way people find love, and while I’m happy that there is such an effective method, I can’t help but feel like the blind date got pushed aside way too quickly. Blind dates, in my opinion … Read more

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Divorced Woman Wants to Know How to Start Dating Again

Divorced Girl Smiling received this comment from a woman seeking inspiration and asking how to start dating again. Still kind of saddened by my divorce of 6 years ago. My ex’s son and I live across the country and enjoy a new life – but with single mom duty and a very, very thin budget, … Read more

lying about age on dating sites

Lying About Your Age on Dating Sites? Why You Should Stop

Dating websites and dating apps are still the number one way people meet, connect and fall in love. That said, there are some downsides. one negative is the ease in which people can lie, specifically about age. So, are you lying about your age on dating sites? I want to tell you why you should stop. … Read more

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Don’t Rule Out LinkedIn as a Dating Site

Men and women are always asking me, “How do I meet someone?“I think that is a tough question. But, something happened a couple days ago that ignited the spark for this article, and it had to do with the potential of a romantic relationship that can stem from LinkedIn or another business networking site. In … Read more

boyfriend has no boundaries with ex wife

My Boyfriend Has No Boundaries With His Ex Wife

I have been dating a great guy who is also divorced for the past several months. He’s good looking, successful, kind, caring, attentive, fun, and just a normal, nice guy. The problem is, my boyfriend has no boundaries with his ex wife. They have keys to each other’s houses, they have dinners together with their … Read more

dating someone who is hot and cold

Dating Someone Who is Hot and Cold Can Really Burn!

Dating someone who is hot and cold is seriously the worst. I was there. Fifteen years later, I can still remember how I felt when I was dating a guy who was hot and cold. On our first date, he took me to a really nice restaurant where the ambience was romantic, the wine was … Read more

recovering from an emotional affair

Is Recovering from an Emotional Affair Possible?

When someone finds out their spouse is cheating or cheated, it’s awful. I’ve personally been there—not in my marriage but in another relationship. It’s like you just got punched in the stomach, and you keep feeling like you are repeatedly getting punched in the stomach for days, even weeks. But what happens when the physical … Read more

marrying the wrong person

My Sister is Marrying the Wrong Person

From a DGS reader: My sister announced her engagement yesterday- to the petulant man-child she’s been living with for years. She is marrying the wrong person. She does not love this guy; he isn’t worthy.   He’s a selfish, lazy, irresponsible boy. He’s holding her back, and she’s letting him. She’s called me many times … Read more

dating after getting divorced

7 Reasons You Should Never Lose Hope In Dating After Getting Divorced

Dating after getting divorced can feel really scary. The insecurity of being older, divorced, and out of practice (for lack of a better phrase) all plays into the fear, anxiety and stress that dating after divorce can bring. As someone who didn’t get married until age 35, I dated a lot. Seriously, a lot. Let’s … Read more

dating a guy with kids

“They Hate Me!”: Dating A Guy With Kids

A friend of mine who was dating a guy with kids said to me, “Today is my boyfriend’s daughter’s 16th birthday. I got her a dozen roses and a box of her favorite chocolates.” I replied, “That’s nice.” My friend responded, “What does it matter? She’ll still hate me.” Dating a guy with kids can … Read more

regretting a breakup

Regretting a Breakup? Advice for Second Thoughts and Doubts

If I had to bet, I would say there has never been a breakup in the history of serious relationships and/or marriages, in which the couple didn’t get back together (or think about getting back together) at least one time before they got divorced. In other words, I believe that breakups in long-term relationships almost … Read more