recovering from an emotional affair

Is Recovering from an Emotional Affair Possible?

When someone finds out their spouse is cheating or cheated, it’s awful. I’ve personally been there—not in my marriage but in another relationship. It’s like you just got punched in the stomach, and you keep feeling like you are repeatedly getting punched in the stomach for days, even weeks. But what happens when the physical … Read more

marrying the wrong person

My Sister is Marrying the Wrong Person

From a DGS reader: My sister announced her engagement yesterday- to the petulant man-child she’s been living with for years. She is marrying the wrong person. She does not love this guy; he isn’t worthy.   He’s a selfish, lazy, irresponsible boy. He’s holding her back, and she’s letting him. She’s called me many times … Read more

dating after getting divorced

7 Reasons You Should Never Lose Hope In Dating After Getting Divorced

Dating after getting divorced can feel really scary. The insecurity of being older, divorced, and out of practice (for lack of a better phrase) all plays into the fear, anxiety and stress that dating after divorce can bring. As someone who didn’t get married until age 35, I dated a lot. Seriously, a lot. Let’s … Read more

dating a guy with kids

“They Hate Me!”: Dating A Guy With Kids

A friend of mine who was dating a guy with kids said to me, “Today is my boyfriend’s daughter’s 16th birthday. I got her a dozen roses and a box of her favorite chocolates.” I replied, “That’s nice.” My friend responded, “What does it matter? She’ll still hate me.” Dating a guy with kids can … Read more

regretting a breakup

Regretting a Breakup? Advice for Second Thoughts and Doubts

If I had to bet, I would say there has never been a breakup in the history of serious relationships and/or marriages, in which the couple didn’t get back together (or think about getting back together) at least one time before they got divorced. In other words, I believe that breakups in long-term relationships almost … Read more

forgiving a cheater

The Two Biggest Obstacles In Forgiving A Cheater

Readers email me frequently, asking for advice on what to do in coping with a cheating husband (or wife). Some of them want to try to work it out, while others are vehemently headed for divorce  court. But a lot of spouses are unsure, and their indecision on whether they should stay or leave can … Read more

first date tips

First Date Tips: Good And Bad Topics of Conversation

Although they can be hopeful, exciting and fun, let’s be honest, first dates can consist of massive moments of awkward silence. For example, feeling like you have food between your teeth, wondering if he is noticing your nervousness, regretting your choice in what you wore, thinking you said something really stupid and wishing you could … Read more

desperate for marriage

In Love Or Desperate For Marriage Number Two?

Read the email below from a divorced guy with kids whose divorced girlfriend with kids started pressuring him to get married after knowing each other for only 9 months. Is she really in love with him? Or, is she just desperate for marriage number two? I have been with my current girlfriend for 9 months. … Read more

engaged with no intention to marry

Engaged With No Intention to Marry? You’re Not Alone

Are you in a relationship where you are engaged with no intention to marry? If so, first of all, I am too, but secondly, so are many, many couples who have been married in the past.  The following is an article I wrote that was published on The Good Men Project. It is aimed to … Read more

dating a divorced woman

Dating a Divorced Woman? Here’s What We Want And Don’t Want

Dating a divorced woman? Here’s a story that might help you understand what we want and don’t want! What Divorced Women Want and Don’t Want From the Men We Date by Jackie Pilossoph for The Good Men Project Karen could not have been more excited. After a heartbreaking divorce, several months of quarantining and isolation, … Read more

how to move on when you still love him

How Do You Move On When You Still Love Him?

Sometimes we just want to hear loving, confirming words from someone. Those three words, “I love you,” can make us feel secure, valued and at ease. But, “I love you” doesn’t always translate to, “I want to get back together.” In other words, you can still love someone even if you know it’s over, and … Read more

smell and attraction

Smell and Attraction: We’re Here To Tell You That Smell Matters!

Smell and attraction is an interesting topic. What if you are dating this great person, who looks attractive to you, whose personality you are loving, and for who you have great respect, but there’s one thing off: his smell. In other words, what do you do when there’s a smell and attraction problem? When you’re … Read more