People have become so focused on dating sites and apps, that they have forgotten about the possibility of blind dates as a way to meet single people and find love. Here is my article, “Five Benefits of Blind Dates,” published recently on ESME.
Five Benefits of Blind Dates by Jackie Pilossoph for ESME
I feel like I hear about a new dating website or app every week. The latest to hit the smartphone scene: Bumble, a Tinder-like app that gives women control over initiating conversations with men. There is also Tastebuds, which matches people up according to their music preferences; SCORE, which asks people quirky questions and matches them up based on their answers; and happn, which uses physical location habits to connect people.
I also just heard about Tindog for dog lovers, Align for those into zodiac signs, and Grouper for those who want to play it safe by going on blind group dates. The list goes on and on, not to mention the long-term players, which include Match.com, eHarmony, Tinder, JDate, and Christian Mingle.
It’s no wonder online dating has become the number-one way men and women search for love. In fact, online dating has gotten so popular that I think people have forgotten about good old-fashioned blind dates. In my opinion, setups are alive and well, and one of the best ways—if not the the best way—to meet single people.
I can speak with authority on the subject because I lived it. During my dating lifetime, which, let’s say, spans from age 20 to 50 (leaving out the 10 years I was with my ex-husband), I would say I have been set up on two- or three-dozen blind dates. Were all of the dates blissful? Hell, no. I remember one date in the 1990s, sitting across the table from my best friend’s fiance’s friend who was wearing a vest (those were “in” at the time but repulsive to me) and ranting his left-wing politics into my right-wing ears while eating chicken wings and licking his fingers. Not that fun of a night for Jackie.
That said, I would estimate that three-quarters of my dates were delightful. Some of the guys didn’t call me back because they weren’t interested, which was disappointing but didn’t make me regretful that I went, and a few of the guys ended up becoming platonic friends. One blind date of mine went well, but there was no physical attraction on either part, so I asked him if I could set him up with one of my friends. He agreed to the idea, and they have now been married for 17 years and have two children. I also ended up dating someone for six years whom I met on a blind date. So, it can work out (although ended means it didn’t work out, but I was happy for a long time).
Here are five benefits of blind dates:
1. Meeting someone new almost always enriches a person’s life in some way. It can be something as little as a book or movie recommendation, a weight-loss tip, or a new restaurant you just tried that can add something to your life. Even if there’s no love connection, you’ve gained something.
2. Your date might set you up with someone else. Your chances of meeting someone significant go up every time you walk out your door. If you and your date don’t hit it off, maybe he or she will introduce you to Mr. or Mrs. Right. Think about it. Even if it is in a serendipitous way, your bad blind date could lead you to the love of your life. For example, let’s say you are at a restaurant two months after the date and you bump into this person. He or she could be there with someone who ends up falling head over heels at the first sight of you.
3. You might have fun. Just because you aren’t out with the perfect guy or girl for you doesn’t mean you won’t have a good time. You might find yourself laughing and enjoying yourself. Isn’t that better than sitting on your couch watching CNN?
4. It’s good experience. Going out on dates is a learning process. I believe that with every date, you get more experienced at what you liked and didn’t like about yourself on the date, what you liked and didn’t like about the other person, and what you are looking for in the future.
5. Um . . . it might just work out! Does this even need an explanation? All right, fine. You are pinching yourself. You can’t believe this person just came into your life. It happened!
So, how do you get someone to set up a blind date? (Click here to read the rest of the article, published recently on ESME.)
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