My 12 most popular divorce blog posts of 2015!
How was your 2015? Was this the year your life completely spun out of control because your spouse told you he/she wanted a divorce? Or, perhaps this was a year of healing for you, spending 2015 as a separated single person? Maybe it was a year full of good and bad dates. Or maybe you fell madly in love in 2015.
For this Divorced Girl Smiling, 2015 was a year in which A LOT happened to me. A bit of a roller coaster, both in love and in my professional life, (oh, and I had a major operation AND turned 50), I find myself looking back and saying, “Through it all, I am truly blessed for my many loved ones, and I continue to pray for everything wonderful that is mine.”
I thought it would be fun to recap my most popular blog posts of 2015, in which I hope touched and helped all of my readers.
The 12 Most Popular Blog Posts of 2015
- Guess What? Your Ex and His New Wife Aren’t As Blissful As They Are in Your Head
“I am of the opinion that any relationship which starts with lies and cheating has a huge chance of failure, long term. Why? Because eventually, the burden of the guilt associated with what you did catches up with you and it damages the relationship. The person ends up with such self-hatred that they either take it out on the new person (like it was his or her fault for participating in the cheating) or they cheat again.” Click here to read the entire blog post.
- The Raw Feelings of a Fresh Breakup
“I truly believe that in every relationship, people look back and recognize certain things that happened that cause resentment. If there is any communication between the two people, one or both of the them try to let the other person know how wonderful they are doing, and how they are changing so much for the better. My question is, “Why couldn’t you change that for me?” It’s a bit infuriating for me to think that the next girl will reap the benefits of things he learned from our relationship. Then again, my next guy might benefit from the same.” Click here to read the entire blog post.
- Don’t Settle For a Knockoff When You Can Have a Real Prada Bag
“Doesn’t it feel good when you know in your core that you’re not a fake with someone? You’re really you and he loves it. That’s just awesome. Being vulnerable can also make someone fall more in love with you. It shows you are human, that you are unafraid to feel things deeply. That is a huge turn on to most people.” Click here to read the entire post.
- Should You Listen To Your Heart or Your Gut?
“The heart is constantly showering you with details about how wonderful and perfect the guy or girl you are dating is. The heart rejoices in love, romance, and a bright hopeful future with the person. It minimizes, defends and rationalizes anything negative in the relationship. The heart will never tell you that Mr. or Ms. Right is wrong for you because the heart only sees and feels the things you want to see and feel.
The gut, on the other hand, has no problem telling you if the relationship or the person is wrong for you. The gut is the devil and your best friend at the same time. The gut won’t lie. It won’t sugarcoat. It won’t make excuses. It will tell you to run the hell away from a relationship that won’t make you happy in the end.” Click here to read the rest of the post.
- Independence Not Just For America, But For You Too!
“Independence fosters self-esteem, pride, poise and confidence. I mean, how great does it feel when you can look in the mirror and think, “Wow, I’m really proud that I’m doing this all by myself?” I believe that one of the greatest joys in life is having a moment when you realize you achieved something you never thought you were capable of.” Click here to read the rest of the post.
- Love Over 50: Love Never Felt So Good
“Like a magical gift from above, 50 feels smarter, with a presence of self-assurance, peace, grace and understanding, especially when it comes to love.
Here are 50 things I’ve learned about love in my 50 years:
If you think he might be cheating, he is
Men love to feel loved. Not smothered, though.
Every woman should have a cougar relationship in her life.
Men see women 10 pounds lighter than women see themselves. So guess what? You just lost 10 pounds!
Don’t worry so much about meeting “the one.” Instead, savor and be grateful for the intensity and excitement of dating.
The best part of having out-of-the ballpark sex with someone is keeping it completely to yourself.”
- Understanding Your Broken Heart Might Be Helpful in Healing
“Have you ever tried to see the good in someone over and over and over and over again, and that person just never steps up? Each time that happens, it breaks your heart. You keep seeing these opportunities, expecting him or her to do something extraordinary, and show you that he/she is a really good person, and the person never, ever shows you what you want to see. It’s exhausting, frustrating, sad, depressing, infuriating. And, it breaks your heart every single time. Stop doing that to yourself! He or she is who they are. THEY WILL NEVER CHANGE.” Click here to read the rest of the post.
- Alone on Thanksgiving?
Remember that if you have family and friends who love and care for you (and you love and care for them), no matter if you are physically with them or not, you are never alone.” Click here to read the rest of the post.
- Coping With Jealousy and Insecurity In a Relationship
“Everyone has insecurities. We are our own worst critics when looking in the mirror. So, when people get into a blissful relationship that they cherish so dearly, insecurities and jealous tendencies can come raging out like a lion let out of a cage.” Click here to read the rest of the post.
- Why The Serenity Prayer Should be Required Daily Reading for Those Facing Divorce
“If you complain over and over again about the same things—my husband (or wife) left me, he/she is so happy with his new wife/husband, she’s pregnant, I’m alone and he/she is happy, there’s no justice, I’m poor and he/she just bought a new Porsche, etc. etc. it won’t change anything. The only thing it will do is aggravate and depress you.” Click here to read the rest of the post.
- Going Through a Divorce? One Word That Will Keep You Out of the Garbage Chute
“When it comes to divorce, we want to be able to pick up our Smartphone and say, “Siri, give me a divorce now.” But, the thing about going through a divorce is that it takes time. It takes A LOT of time. From the time one or both people decide to get divorced up until the time the papers are signed and it’s final could take years.” Click here to read the rest of the post.
- Breakup Advice: Consider Celebrating It
“If everyone looks at New Year’s so festively, why is it that when it comes to the end of a relationship – whether it’s a divorce or a breakup, people view it so negatively? Why do we fear the change of our relationship status, yet celebrate the change of the calendar year? And why do we have such a dim outlook on being single again, in contrast to a hopeful attitude for the start of a new year?
I’m not saying that if your marriage just ended or if you just got dumped you should be dancing around your kitchen wearing a sparkling party hat and blowing a noisemaker. But I just can’t understand why divorce and breakups are looked at so differently than New Year’s. While both involve the unknown, one celebrates it while the other dreads it.” Click here to read the rest of the post.