my ex moved on and it hurts

My Ex Moved On And It Hurts. Of Course it Does.

From a reader: I need some advice. My ex moved on and it hurts. When he was in denial going through our divorce, we still spoke a lot. He promised that he’d always be there for me– “you’ll see, whether we’re together or not, I’ll be there.” He bought a house a street over from … Read more

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You Got This, Girl! 10 Single Mom Dating Tips

Jackie, I’m wondering if you can write about dating as a single mom when your ex is especially difficult.  In any divorce, when you think about dating again, you get overwhelmed, but what if you add to that worries about your ex actually trying to sabotage any attempt to move on, just to “get even.” … Read more

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Betrayal And Disgust: The Ex Is Dating A Woman 15 Years Younger

I’m having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that my husband is dating a woman 15 years younger (my kids told me about her) after 11 years of marriage and just a few months of separation. He’s 41 with 2 young kids  — it just feels so icky and like a punch … Read more

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Should I Stay In My Marriage For The Kids?

I often work with people who have stayed in their marriage for years for the sole reason of not wanting to put their kids through a divorce. This is a well-meaning and loving decision made by parents who are genuinely interested in their children’s welfare. But at the same time, it can cause serious damage … Read more

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Dating At 50: No, You Don’t Turn Into A Pumpkin When You Turn 50

Question from a reader: I have a question about dating at 50. For some reason, men in their 50s are judged by different criteria, not looks alone, whereas for women, physical appearance still is a primary criteria. I am 52. I hear feedback from many men my age that they are simply not attracted to … Read more

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Going To A Wedding Alone While Going Through A Divorce

 From a Divorced Girl Smiling reader: Talk to me about going to a wedding alone post separation/divorce. Mine is still fresh as can be – he told me 6 weeks ago and just moved out 3 weeks ago. Like, the invite I got today was still addressed to both of us. Thankfully my soon-to-be-ex will … Read more

I Want a Divorce: How Do I Tell Him?

Jackie, I don’t know where to start. I don’t love my husband anymore. I also don’t want to be married anymore.  I don’t understand the point of marriage and I regret it everyday.  I have been married 5 years. We have no children together.  My problem is this: he has not done anything really that bad. … Read more

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When Your Wife Walks Out On You And You Blame Yourself

What do you do when your wife walks out on you? That’s the question of this reader, whose wife left and who is blaming himself: I have only myself to blame. I could have done so many things different to make her happy. She begged me to change but I was a stubborn ass and … Read more

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Facing Divorce? Here Is Some Sisterly Advice For Those In Need

Facing divorce isn’t easy. This is an article I wrote that was published in the Alpha Chi Omega magazine. I was an Alpha Chi at I.U. Facing Divorce? Here is Some Sisterly Advice: It’s been over 30 years since I attended an Alpha Chi candlelight ceremony for a mystery sister who was either getting lavaliered, … Read more

Should I Leave My Husband For Cheating?

From a reader: Last year, my husband cheated. We have been together for 8 years. It was a one time thing with someone he met in a bar and he has moved mountains to make it up to me. I think I still want a divorce, though. I just don’t know. Should I leave my … Read more

Anxious During Divorce? You Might Be Overthinking Things

There are many things that can make a person feel anxious during divorce. One of them is overthinking things. Do you find yourself reading too much into situations or spending too much time trying to make decisions? You are likely overthinking things and it is probably not helpful to your emotional well-being. Here are 4 … Read more

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Newly Divorced? Don’t make these 5 BIG Mistakes

Being newly divorced is probably the most stressful time in a person’s life. You’re mourning the loss of the most serious relationship you’ve ever had. You’re stressed to the hilt about finances. You’re watching your children’s lives in upheaval. And you’re trying to figure out your new life. Because of these stressful factors, people getting … Read more