From a reader: I found out my ex-husband is having a baby with his girlfriend, an affair that carried on for a long time, even during my marriage. I am probably most mad at myself on how I could have been so blind. It makes me wonder if he ever loved me at all. … Read more
Falling in love after 50 is really really surprising to men and women. How I know this is, I’ve gotten countless emails from readers who are getting divorced and they write that a huge fear for them is that they will never find love again. Then, the same people email me 6 months or a … Read more
My co-mediation partner and I get weekly calls from prospective clients asking about mediation. “How do I tell my spouse I want to divorce?” “We are friendly and do not want attorneys involved…” “We both love our children,” “This has been coming for a long time,” and other similar questions and statements. Oftentimes, my first … Read more
I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of emails lately from readers who express a fear of dating after divorce. Having experienced it myself, I can say firsthand that I don’t blame them! Dating after divorce is terrifying for anyone. Fear of dating, especially after divorce is very common, normal and understandable. But that doesn’t … Read more
Does the other parent of your child go out of their way to limit your time with your child? Does the other parent speak poorly about you in front of your child? Does the other parent refuse to share important information or major updates with you about your child? Does the other parent make things … Read more
Ever talk to yourself? Of course you do. “Why am I being so stupid?” “Why did I say that to her?” “I hope I didn’t say anything dumb.” “This dress used to be fit so much better.” “I’m old.” “I screwed up again.” Sound familiar? I bet most people engage in this kind of negative … Read more
As someone who dated from the time I was 16 until I got married at 35, and then dated again at 41 until I was 49, I have a lot to say on the subject of dating, both before and after divorce. In many ways, dating as a teenager isn’t much different than dating in … Read more
Almost every divorced man or woman I know has made a comment at one time or another about how difficult it is to meet single people in the suburbs. After all, it’s easy to picture suburbia as a multitude of residential neighborhoods with tree lined street after tree lined street of picture perfect homes where … Read more
What happens with the in-laws after divorce? I don’t think I have to tell anyone how emotionally difficult it is to get divorced. Sources of stress can include: feeling lonely, being scared, experiencing financial stress, worrying about the kids, paying legal bills, finding a new place to live, trying to keep your home, and dating. … Read more
Last week, I called my friend to tell him I was going to be a few minutes late for our meeting because I wanted to squeeze in a manicure.”Why do women get their nails done?” he asked. “I never understood that.” That’s when it hit me. Sometimes, men just don’t get us. I got to … Read more
Do people get divorced and never look back? Some do. But I think most divorced men and women spend weeks, months, years, and even decades in some cases, rehashing things that happened in their marriage, looking back and second guessing decisions they made before, during and after their divorce. Some wonder if they gave up … Read more
A really really hard part about getting divorced with young kids, is helping them adapt to going from Mom’s house to Dad’s house and back. It’s brutal, and I can still vividly remember how much it hurt, watching my kids at 3 and 5 try to figure out why this was happening. There were many … Read more
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