Have you ever just felt like, ‘My ex hates me’? Sure you have, and it’s frustrating. It’s hard to understand how a person who used to be your husband (or wife) can switch gears so abruptly in a divorce. What I mean by that is, once loving, kind and caring towards you in your marriage, … Read more
Below is an email from a reader who explained that she is going through a divorce, and that the divorce was HER decision. She asked me if I could give her some advice for when a woman decides to leave. In other words, how does one deal with the immense guilt of leaving your husband, … Read more
From the minute a spouse says, “I want a divorce,” (or they say it to their spouse), life completely changes, and I’m not going to sugarcoat it, it’s really really hard. Speaking from my experience, the first year is the hardest, and then things start to get better. But I want to say this: even … Read more
Don’t you feel like when you get divorced, there are two camps, and most people feel like they need to be in one? There are a few mutual friends who try to stay neutral, but then, let’s be honest, it’s just awkward. And then, at one point they get together with one of the divorcing … Read more
Ever talk to yourself? Of course you do. “Why am I being so stupid?” “Why did I say that to her?” “I hope I didn’t say anything dumb.” “This dress used to be fit so much better.” “I’m old.” “I screwed up again.” Sound familiar? I bet most people engage in this kind of negative … Read more
While I was divorcing several years ago, life felt like a roller coaster for awhile. At the beginning, when I was first separated, most days seemed like a mix of chaos, sadness, anger and anxiety. Between my young children, attorney’s fees, financial concerns, feeling alone and very lonely, and walking on eggshells in between terrible … Read more
Divorce is a process. It’s a roller coaster ride. But during the ride, I think there’s a point when people feel like they’ve hit rock bottom. This article addresses rock bottom, and some divorce advice if/when you feel you are there. Rock bottom could be when the marriage is so bad that the person feels … Read more
One of the most difficult, frustrating aspects of a break up or a divorce is seeing the other person become involved with someone else, and not only appearing to be blissfully happy, but seemingly being the perfect spouse! It’s crazy, it’s infuriating, and it’s hard to comprehend. Now he’s doing all these things with this … Read more
Happiness after divorce seems almost unimaginable while you’re going through one. It’s like you just can’t picture it. “What’s my life going to be like when the divorce is final and when all of this is settled? How am I going to move on after divorce? The answers to these questions are difficult because all … Read more
Tell someone you are divorced (or getting divorced) and you are sure to get an earful, most times without even asking! “I had a feeling…” “Men are such jerks!” “I never liked him anyhow” “Oh, I’m so sorry, was he cheating?” and my favorite, (and this is usually accompanied by the person putting his or … Read more
When someone tells me they are going through “an amicable” divorce, I think it’s great, and I respect that mindset, but I also tend to feel a little bit skeptical. While I’d like to think it’s possible to have a friendly divorce versus an ugly divorce, I question whether it can stay that way, just … Read more
If someone asked me what the hardest part of divorce is I’d say it’s right after the ex moves out and the children are with him and you’re sitting there home alone, by yourself, wondering how the heck you got to this point. I would go to bed and wake up in an eerily quiet … Read more
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