Relationship Advice: Men Love These Four Words

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling, Love Essentially columnist and author

Don’t ask me how I know this, I just do: Men love love love hearing their spouse say four words–You make me happy. In this week’s Love Essentially, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, I offer my relationship advice as to why men go crazy for these words. I also checked in with relationship therapist, Anita Chlipala, LMFT to hear her perspective on the subject. 

Four Words Every Man Wants To Hear by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press

“I love you a lot.”

“You are so smart.”

“Rip my clothes off.”

Although I’m fairly certain that most men I know would enjoy hearing any of these three four-word sentences from a spouse, there is another sentiment that trumps all of these: “You make me happy.”

 

A woman I know recently told me a story about her marriage that drives home my theory that men very much want and need this validation from their spouse.

One recent morning, this woman’s husband of 18 years decided to be very helpful around the house (for reasons unknown, according to her.) He took the dog out first thing in the morning, drove to a deli and picked up bagels for his family, and threw in a load of laundry. He then did the ultimate: unloaded the dishwasher. Later that morning, the woman said to her husband, “Thank you. This makes me really happy.” His reaction? She said she has never seen his face light up like it did. In other words, he was elated.

 

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So, why does a man love hearing he makes his spouse happy? (Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.)

Like this article? Check out my blog post, “There Are No Buts In A Healthy Romantic Relationship.”

 

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Editor-in-chief: Jackie Pilossoph

Divorce is a journey. Live it with grace, courage and gratitude. Peace and joy are on the way! Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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