Do these questions and thoughts sound familiar? “Why me? Why would God do this to me? What did I do to deserve this? Why are others so happy in marriage and I’m not? What’s wrong with me? I’m pissed off. I can’t take any more bad stuff happening to me.” I call these the “feeling … Read more
When people go through a divorce, children rank among their biggest concerns. Are they going to be OK? How will the divorce affect them? Are they going to suffer PTSD? Will the effects of the divorce show up when the kids are grown? There are all very normal questions that cause anxiety during and after … Read more
I get a lot of questions from readers wondering, should I keep dating a separated man going through a divorce? I thought I’d help shed some light with two examples of people in this scenario. The first one, a separated man who is frustrated because a woman doesn’t want to go out with him because … Read more
Divorce is never easy, but it can be particularly challenging when one or both spouses are serving in the military. In this article, I’d like to shed some light on the process of military divorce, and offer you some valuable tips to navigate through it smoothly. San Diego’s Unique Military Community First things first, let’s … Read more
When people think of abuse in a marriage or relationship, they tend to think of physical abuse-hitting, shoving, punching; hurting the victim’s body somehow. But there’s another kind of relationship abuse and it’s more difficult to see because there are no visible bruises: emotional abuse. A victim of emotional abuse sometimes doesn’t even realize he/she … Read more
I get many, many emails from women who reach out because of the intense pain they are feeling when their husband leaves them for another woman. Among other emotions of divorce, they tell me they are in shock, devastated, angry, scared, resentful, bitter, and beyond sad and upset. They are feeling very alone, their life … Read more
Navigating the landscape of divorce can be an emotionally taxing journey, and when combined with the complexities of alcohol addiction, the road ahead can appear even more daunting. Divorcing parents may be surprised to find that the answer to “Is alcoholism a disorder or a disease” is “both.” But this is very important: What alcoholism … Read more
Of all the emails I have ever received, (and there’s a lot) this one truly left me heartbroken: No One Knows My pain. What do people do when there is no one left who loves them or even cares? Let me offer a little bit of this reader’s background. She is in her early … Read more
Most people I know have a love hate relationship when it comes to dating after marriage. Dating after divorce is fun and exciting and sexy if you’re on a date with someone you really like. Dating is awful if you’re sitting there smiling and counting the minutes in your head until the food comes so … Read more
Back to school is such a mixed bag of emotions. With feelings of excitement and joy to stress about how it will go for the kids, this is a time of change that can feel hectic. Add divorce to the mix and back to school just got even tougher! In this article, I want to … Read more
Sometimes in divorce negotiations, whether in mediation or collaborative sessions, one of the parties gets upset or feels unappreciated or insulted. Or they can’t believe what the other person said and feel very strong emotions, so they get up and storm out. What Exactly is A Storm Out? The storm out is a physical, non-verbal … Read more
We’ve all heard that divorce story…about the couple who went to court on the day of their divorce, and then after it was final got a hotel room and had sex. I have heard those stories, but never talked with anyone firsthand who admitted they actually did that…until now! This reader tells his story and … Read more
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