divorce anger

What Getting Ripped Off Made Me Realize About Divorce Anger

I felt like this story would help those facing divorce  with divorce anger and bitterness. One would think that after spending almost 20 years living in downtown Chicago it would be unlikely that I fall victim to a scam. Not the case. A few years ago,  I took my kids to the Cubs game. It … Read more

second guessing divorce

Second Guessing Divorce? We Have Some Advice

Second guessing divorce is probably pretty common. But, there’s a difference between having doubts and thinking you might have made a mistake. A DGS reader asks these questions: Does anyone else question their decision to divorce? In other words, I’ve sort of been thinking lately, ‘Was my marriage that bad?’ Is this normal? I’m really … Read more

benefits of forgiveness

3 Benefits of Forgiveness When it Comes To Your Ex

I hear from so many people getting divorced that they are having a really hard time forgiving their ex. Some want to forgive the ex, but just don’t know how, and others say they will never, ever forgive the ex. But what if you found out that their are benefits to forgiveness? Benefits to YOU. … Read more

what is parental alienation

What Is Parental Alienation and How Do You Stop It?

Divorce itself can be absolutely devastating, but nothing can prepare you for the domino effect it will have on the other areas of your life, especially when there are kids involved. Going from a supportive and loving partnership to operating as separate entities is confusing and can leave the child or children involved feeling as … Read more

dating with a disability

Woman Seeks Advice About Dating With a Disability

This email came from a DGS reader who is about to go through a divorce, and is looking for advice about dating with a disability: I have been married to my second husband for 15 years.  Several years into the marriage, I was diagnosed with a rare condition that has impacted my vision – mostly … Read more

when is divorce the right answer

Separated Woman Asks, When is Divorce The Right Answer?

A Divorced Girl Smiling reader asks, “When is divorce the right answer?” Here is her email: I’m having a hard time with my decision to leave my husband for good even though it’s been almost 2 years. He came over to my apartment the other day crying and so upset because he wants us back … Read more

reasons for divorce

Reasons For Divorce Go Beyond What People Tell You

There are many reasons for divorce, but if you ask someone  why he or she is getting divorced, here are some answers you might get: 1. My husband cheated on me. 2. I came home one day and found my wife in bed with some guy. 3. My wife doesn’t love me anymore. 4. My … Read more

my ex moved on and it hurts

My Ex Moved On And It Hurts. Of Course it Does.

From a reader: I need some advice. My ex moved on and it hurts. When he was in denial going through our divorce, we still spoke a lot. He promised that he’d always be there for me– “you’ll see, whether we’re together or not, I’ll be there.” He bought a house a street over from … Read more

single mom dating tips

You Got This, Girl! 10 Single Mom Dating Tips

Jackie, I’m wondering if you can write about dating as a single mom when your ex is especially difficult.  In any divorce, when you think about dating again, you get overwhelmed, but what if you add to that worries about your ex actually trying to sabotage any attempt to move on, just to “get even.” … Read more

dating a woman 15 years younger

Betrayal And Disgust: The Ex Is Dating A Woman 15 Years Younger

I’m having a hard time coming to terms with the fact that my husband is dating a woman 15 years younger (my kids told me about her) after 11 years of marriage and just a few months of separation. He’s 41 with 2 young kids  — it just feels so icky and like a punch … Read more

should I stay in my marriage for the kids

Should I Stay In My Marriage For The Kids?

I often work with people who have stayed in their marriage for years for the sole reason of not wanting to put their kids through a divorce. This is a well-meaning and loving decision made by parents who are genuinely interested in their children’s welfare. But at the same time, it can cause serious damage … Read more

dating a single dad

Dating A Single Dad: 5 Ways To Make Things Easier

Dating a single dad can be complicated. It can make you feel sad, frustrated, infuriated and can possibly drive you crazy, at times. Why? Because there are so many different relationships going on at the same time, and some or all can be intense and sensitive and complex. Let’s look at the dynamics of dating … Read more