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The Importance Of Asking For What You Want In A Relationship

A huge issue in a faltering romantic relationship is when one or both people stop communicating effectively. One aspect of this is when instead of coming out and asking for things they want, hold everything inside and then become angry and resentful toward the other person because they aren’t getting what they want/need. Asking for … Read more

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Does Guy Having An Emotional Affair With His Boss Deserve Another Chance?

Any kind of cheating is awful. Feeling betrayed is painful, heart wrenching and terribly disappointing. But I personally think it might be harder for a couple to come back from having an emotional affair. Here is one reader’s story: My husband and I have been together for 13 years and married for a little over … Read more

in an abusive relationship

Are You In An Abusive Relationship?

Last night was the Super Bowl, so today seemed like an opportune time to publish this post, written by an anonymous author who was in an abusive relationship. I know, I know… it’s a myth that Super Bowl Sunday spikes the highest incidence of domestic violence. But still, I have to believe that drinking and … Read more

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A Divorced Woman’s Really Bad Date

One of my friends recently began online dating after divorce. She met a guy on Bumble a couple weeks ago and they went out last weekend. Turns out, it was a pretty bad date. I tell her story and offer my advice in this week’s Love Essentially. When Did Men Stop Being Gentlemen?  by Jackie … Read more

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Why Is America Obsessed With The Bachelor, Colton And His Virginity?

Yes, once again I have gotten myself into a love hate relationship with the Bachelor. There I sit, every Monday night watching the show with my teenage daughter–that’s part of the love (to spend time with her) rolling my eyes half the time, and tearing up the other! While I think Bachelor producers have gotten … Read more

amicable divorce

Believe It Or Not An Amicable Divorce Is Possible

The news is routinely filled with sensational stories of divorce gone wrong. We read about vindictive spouses who are hell bent on destroying their exes. We read about greedy lawyers who fan the flames of conflict so that divorces last longer and they make more money. But think about it. What we never read about … Read more

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How Many People Have You Slept With? Do Numbers Really Matter?

I have a friend who is in his fifties who travels a lot for work. So, he’s on planes every week. He told me that he was bored on a flight one time, so he decided to get a pen and a piece of paper and write down every woman he’s ever had sex with. … Read more

2018 the worst year of your life

Was 2018 The Worst Year Of Your Life?

I remember reading someone’s Facebook post last year on December 31st, and it read, “Good-bye 2017, I WON’T miss you at all.” Apparently, 2017 was not a good year for her. While I understand the post—her husband left her in early January, 2017 and she was going through a divorce that entire year, I think … Read more

I left my husband

Two Perspectives: “I Left My Husband” Versus “My Wife Left Me”

From someone who has been receiving emails and comments from readers for almost 6 years, I can say with certainty that I’ve heard tens of thousands of heartbreaking stories having to do with marital problems, divorce, and dating and relationships. When it comes to the people who write me about divorce, the two most common … Read more

hugs are good for your health

Did You Know That Hugs Are Good For Your Health?

If you are thinking about divorce, chances are you are feeling pretty lonely. If you are going through a divorce, you are probably feeling scared and lonely. And if you are dating after a divorce, who knows what you are feeling! Dating after divorce can be really fun, but it can also feel hopeless and … Read more

bad marriage during the holidays

Are You In A Bad Marriage During The Holidays?

You know it to your very core. You’re done. You’ve lived in an unhappy marriage for far too long. The thought of your bad marriage during the holidays AGAIN is almost more than you can bear.   Watching your husband overindulge at holiday parties is unbearable. Listening to that fake laugh your wife puts on … Read more