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What is a Single Mom? 9 Facts About Us

What is a single mom? Living life as a suburban single mom is kind of complicated. Why? Because although divorce is pretty common nowadays, being a single parent in a suburban community is still far from the norm. Not that the single mom and her children don’t constitute a family. They sure as heck do! … Read more

A Solo Date Might Be Just What You Need During And After Divorce

A DGS reader wrote this: Just went on my first solo date–went to see the movie Bombshell, which was pretty good. Man, why did I used to be so intimidated by enjoying things alone? It’s so peaceful.   First off, congratulations on your solo date and you self-care act! Taking yourself out, doing the things … Read more

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My Husband Is Not Affectionate Or Romantic And I Might Want A Divorce

DGS gets a lot of emails from readers who tell us “My husband is not affectionate or romantic.” While that is a problem, is it enough of an issue to warrant divorce? Here’s the story of one reader who’s wondering about this:   I have been married for 12 years and all these years I … Read more

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Dating As A Single Parent: 15 Fifteen-Minute Date Ideas

I can still remember some amazing dates I had before I was married—the kind of dates that started in the afternoon at a Cubs game or a museum, that continued into dinner, followed by an after-dinner cocktail at a little Lincoln Park Pub or a piano bar. Then, after the drinks, a walk home, which … Read more

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7 Suggestions In Finding Yourself After Divorce

So many of us invest our entire selves into our roles in life. Whether that is being a mother, a wife, a homeowner, etc., we find that these identities define us and we rely on them to feel a sense of purpose and importance. Our sense of self gets so wrapped up in these roles … Read more

My Ex Is Lying During Divorce, Telling People I’m Mentally Ill

Going through a divorce definitely has its challenges. We all know that. But what happens when during divorce, one person starts spreading lies about the other? Here is one reader’s story. During her divorce, her ex is actually telling people she is mentally ill.   “How do you handle the gossip they spread? He’s telling … Read more

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“My Ex Got Engaged. I Feel Like I’ve Been Pushed Off a Cliff”

This is from a divorced woman whose ex got engaged: I’ve been divorced for 3 years and I found out today my ex got engaged. He called to let me know, and I felt that physical pain, that stab in your heart. I pretended to be happy for him. I should be, anyway. We have … Read more

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What Happens After Divorce Papers are Filed?

Divorced Girl Smiling received an email from a guy basically saying, “I got served divorce papers! Now what?!” So, I thought I’d write about what happens after divorce papers are filed. My first piece of advice for what happens after divorce papers are filed is, despite what some people think, this isn’t really the start … Read more

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What Getting Ripped Off Made Me Realize About Divorce Anger

I felt like this story would help those facing divorce  with divorce anger and bitterness. One would think that after spending almost 20 years living in downtown Chicago it would be unlikely that I fall victim to a scam. Not the case. A few years ago,  I took my kids to the Cubs game. It … Read more

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Second Guessing Divorce? We Have Some Advice

Second guessing divorce is probably pretty common. But, there’s a difference between having doubts and thinking you might have made a mistake. A DGS reader asks these questions: Does anyone else question their decision to divorce? In other words, I’ve sort of been thinking lately, ‘Was my marriage that bad?’ Is this normal? I’m really … Read more

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3 Benefits of Forgiveness When it Comes To Your Ex

I hear from so many people getting divorced that they are having a really hard time forgiving their ex. Some want to forgive the ex, but just don’t know how, and others say they will never, ever forgive the ex. But what if you found out that their are benefits to forgiveness? Benefits to YOU. … Read more

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What Is Parental Alienation and How Do You Stop It?

Divorce itself can be absolutely devastating, but nothing can prepare you for the domino effect it will have on the other areas of your life, especially when there are kids involved. Going from a supportive and loving partnership to operating as separate entities is confusing and can leave the child or children involved feeling as … Read more