It’s something that you’ve thought about for a long time. You’ve been dissatisfied with your marriage for years, yet here you still are. The idea of separating from him or her leaves you feeling a range of emotions from terrified to exhilarated. You want to make a change to make your life better, yet you … Read more
Every divorce situation is unique, which is why there are no right or wrong answers when it comes to how soon or how long a person wants to wait to date and/or get into a relationship. But what happens when you fall for someone too fast, and you realize you’re not really over the end … Read more
How long should you wait to date after a divorce? When I first got separated, it bothered me when people tried to give me advice about dating and my love life, along with when the right time was to start dating again. I felt like saying, “I’m the only person who has the right to … Read more
There is a reason the divorce rate for second marriage is over 70%. In fact, some studies even claim second marriage failures as high as 80%. That doesn’t speak well for second marriage – especially second marriage after 40. If you’re considering second marriage after 40, or even if you are just dating, with … Read more
Good News! Divorce courts in Illinois are officially open. It has been a long, sometimes stressful few months for so many. With pressing legal issues and limited resources, those who have been waiting to have cases heard in court or addressed in non-court settings can finally find some resolutions. Whether you need a court hearing … Read more
From a divorced woman seeking advice: My birthday is coming up and this is the first time I am alone on my birthday, in a new city with no close friends. Any idea on how I can celebrate on my own? First off, Happy Birthday! The older I get, the more I see the necessity … Read more
From a reader: Decided today we are divorcing after 30 years. He is living in Florida, I’m in Illinois. I wanted to move to Florida to be with him and he said no. Feeling horrible. I am sorry to hear that you are feeling horrible, but if you commit to feeling better, you most certainly … Read more
Staying with someone who cheated on you is a tough call. Every situation is unique. If someone cheats, that doesn’t necessarily mean he/she will do it again. Maybe it was a wakeup call that the marriage needs help. Maybe divorce isn’t the answer. That said, is the phrase “Once a cheater, always a cheater” accurate? … Read more
Advice for a woman who wrote to tell me, “My ex and my best friend are dating:” As I just passed the one-year anniversary of my divorce, I’ve learned that what many had suggested at the time of my separation is most likely true: my ex and my best friend are dating. I have come … Read more
Getting divorced is a major life change, and the process can be emotionally devastating. Having a healthy, productive relationship with your divorce attorney is key in managing the stress and anxiety during divorce. In Atul Gawande’s thought provoking book, “Being Mortal,” he describes different relationships patients have with their doctors. In the oldest and most … Read more
Back in 2007 when I was going through my divorce and feeling immense divorce sadness, stress and fear, people didn’t talk about gratitude and meditation like they do now. Or maybe they did, and I just wasn’t listening. But these days, gratitude is such a buzz word. It is touted as being the key … Read more
In the wake of the coronavirus, China saw a massive surge in the number of divorce cases filed. So, will the same thing happen in the U.S.? Will the divorce rate spike after couples have spent months quarantined together, having had the chance to reflect on the marriage, why it isn’t working and what they … Read more
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