When people are going through a divorce and facing extreme resentment, anger, hurt, bitterness and fear, an ugly side of someone can come out. People can become mean, petty, moody, spiteful or vengeful. Then there’s the divorce bully; the person who decides he or she is going to get what they want by bullying the soon-to-be ex. Here are some tips on how to cope with a divorce bully:
How To Handle A Bully In Divorce Court by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
It seems like bullying is such a hot topic these days. With frequent news stories about cyber-bullying, kids being bullied at school and even adults being bullied in the workplace, almost everyone seems to have experienced a bully at some point in life.
So when a friend of mine who is going through a divorce told me she felt like she was being bullied by her soon-to-be ex-husband, it didn’t surprise me. Under such times of extreme anger, resentment, stress and fear of the future, a person can turn into an ugly bully with the purpose of intimidating the spouse to get what he or she wants in the divorce.
“The judge is going to rule in my favor.”
“You are going to regret this until the day you die.”
“I’m going to make sure the kids never speak to you, ever again.”
“I feel sorry for you because you’re going to lose everything.”
“You are nothing without me.”
These are just some of the things men and women have told me their spouses said to them during their divorce.
Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.
Like this article? Check out my blog post, “Riding The Roller Coaster of Divorce”
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