Having Girlfriend Problems?

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling, the place to find trusted, vetted divorce professionals, a podcast, website and mobile app.

Girlfriend problems are pretty common, according to life coach, Dr. Lisa Kaplin. So common, that I decided to write my Love Essentially column on reasons why friendships can end, and how handle a girlfriend who decides she just doesn’t want to be your girlfriend anymore.

When Your Girlfriend Isn’t Your Girlfriend Anymore

by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

There’s nothing worse than the end of a romantic relationship. In a breakup, one or both people have immensely painful feelings that can include sadness, loneliness, anger, regret, fear and the worst one, heartbreak.



But there’s another kind of breakup that can cause women similar feelings: when your girlfriend is no longer your girlfriend.

Maybe you had a falling out, maybe she just stopped returning your calls and texts, or maybe it was mutual and the two of you just drifted apart. Regardless of how it happens, the end of a female friendship can be really sad, especially if it was someone you thought was a true friend.

Dr. Lisa Kaplin is a life coach and psychologist who said she hears about girlfriend issues and breakups from her female clients frequently.

“I often hear, ‘My girlfriend said something to me and I’m so mad at her, I’m not going to be friends with her anymore,’ or ‘We had plans and she canceled at the last minute, and if she really cared about me she wouldn’t have done that,’ ” said Kaplin, who has been in practice for 18 years. “To women, our friendships mean a lot to us, so small things can feel like big hurts.”

When a friendship ends, there’s always a reason. Kaplin and I came up with 11 possibilities:

(Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, the LA Times, and several other newspapers across the country.)

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    Jackie Pilossoph is the Founder of Divorced Girl Smiling, the media company that connects people facing with divorce to trusted, vetted divorce professionals. Pilossoph is a former NBC affiliate television journalist and Chicago Tribune/Pioneer Press features reporter. Her syndicated column, Love Essentially was published in the Chicago Tribune/Pioneer Press and Tribune owned publications for 7 1/2 years. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University. Learn more at: DivorcedGirlSmiling.com

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