Having Girlfriend Problems?

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

Girlfriend problems are pretty common, according to life coach, Dr. Lisa Kaplin. So common, that I decided to write my Love Essentially column on reasons why friendships can end, and how handle a girlfriend who decides she just doesn’t want to be your girlfriend anymore.

When Your Girlfriend Isn’t Your Girlfriend Anymore

by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

There’s nothing worse than the end of a romantic relationship. In a breakup, one or both people have immensely painful feelings that can include sadness, loneliness, anger, regret, fear and the worst one, heartbreak.



But there’s another kind of breakup that can cause women similar feelings: when your girlfriend is no longer your girlfriend.

Maybe you had a falling out, maybe she just stopped returning your calls and texts, or maybe it was mutual and the two of you just drifted apart. Regardless of how it happens, the end of a female friendship can be really sad, especially if it was someone you thought was a true friend.

Dr. Lisa Kaplin is a life coach and psychologist who said she hears about girlfriend issues and breakups from her female clients frequently.

“I often hear, ‘My girlfriend said something to me and I’m so mad at her, I’m not going to be friends with her anymore,’ or ‘We had plans and she canceled at the last minute, and if she really cared about me she wouldn’t have done that,’ ” said Kaplin, who has been in practice for 18 years. “To women, our friendships mean a lot to us, so small things can feel like big hurts.”

When a friendship ends, there’s always a reason. Kaplin and I came up with 11 possibilities:

(Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, the LA Times, and several other newspapers across the country.)

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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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