Divorce Advice for Women: 10 Things You Should Always Carry In Your Purse

By Jackie Pilossoph, Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling, Love Essentially columnist and author

I’m one of those women who carries a ton of “stuff” in my purse. Mints, gum, business cards, dozens of pens, a phone charger, my wallet, check books, female “items,” sunglasses, reading glasses. I could go on and on. You wouldn’t believe how heavy my purse is. Sometimes I wonder, ‘Do I really need all this “stuff?”’ Maybe I should travel lighter. But, I have do have some divorce advice for women. Here are 10 things every divorced woman should carry in her purse:

1.    Business cards: You never know where you could be when you meet someone who could really make a difference in your life. You could be in line at Chipotle, or in Walgreens or at your child’s school, and you could start talking business with someone. That could lead to a job offer, or business for what you are currently doing, or yes, asking you out on a date. A visual (meaning a card with your company name and number) is a much more powerful way for someone to remember you and follow up than writing your name and number on a napkin.


2.    Courage: Divorce is scary, especially at the beginning. I remember feeling very alone in the world and unsure of my future, both financially and emotionally. Keep some courage in your bag at all times. Remember in The Wizard of Oz when the wizard gave the cowardly lion the medal to give him courage? If you need to do the same, carry an old medal or something that symbolizes how courage helped you win something in your life. It could be from sports, or it could be an old sales ranking report where you are in the top 10%. Anything to help you believe in your ability to roll your shoulders back, take a deep breath and forge ahead.


 3.    Photos of your children: There is nothing more powerful thank looking at a photo of the people you love most in your life. If you are nervous about something, look at a picture of your kids. If you are sad, look at picture of your kids, if you are angry or you feel cheated, look at a picture of your kids. Basically, any negative feelings can be neutralized by seeing the faces that give your life the most meaning.


 4.    A copy of the last page of her divorce decree: This only applies to people who change their name. If you keep a copy of this in your purse, you always have proof that you are the same person as the other name. It makes life so much easier!


 5.    Faith: This might be the most important thing you need to carry with you. Having faith and believing in God and in yourself is beyond powerful. I believe there is a big difference between religion and spirituality. You don’t have to go to church or temple to feel the power of God. Talk to Him. Pray to Him, and believe. It will make a difference.


6.    Dental floss: Not just divorced women but ALL women need to carry dental floss in their purses! If you are out at a business lunch, do you really want to be picking out that piece of lettuce between your two front teeth with a toothpick?


7.    Acceptance: The difference between those who get over their divorce and those who don’t lies in acceptance. It’s not easy, but acceptance is the key to a happy post-divorce life.  It stinks that it happened to you, but it did. So, accept what you have, focus on your new life, that will only get better and better with time.


8.    Tissues: You can buy an eight pack of travel size tissues at CVS for $2.49 and it will be the best $2.49 you ever spent! With divorce comes lots of crying (unfortunately), and lots of crying from other divorced women you might meet. Always good to be prepared.


9.    Lipstick:  I think I heard somewhere that men are nicer to women who wear lipstick. Ladies, use it to your advantage! Plus, don’t you always feel better about yourself with some color on your lips? Lipstick gives confidence. That might seem shallow to some, but I say, “use everything you can!” Lipstick makes women feel pretty. What’s wrong with that?


10. Self-love: This is something I learned from my dear friend, Sylvia Friedman, guru life coach, therapist, speaker and author. Love yourself!!!! How do you get self-love? Treat others with kindness, forgive yourself for your mistakes, do the best job you can every day, don’t blame others for your mistakes, accept your part of the blame for your divorce, and most importantly, take pride in what you have accomplished.

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Jackie Pilossoph

Editor-in-chief: Jackie Pilossoph

Divorce is a journey. Live it with grace, courage and gratitude. Peace and joy are on the way! Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

3 Responses to “Divorce Advice for Women: 10 Things You Should Always Carry In Your Purse”

  1. Wilma Jones

    Love this post! Totally agree, especially #2 – that’s one of my mantras – “I have the courage to manage my mind.”

    • Francie Stavish

      Friends ask me all the time why I always carry business cards with me. Are you kidding…Now I can tell them it is number ONE on your list. Really, I can’t imagine not carrying business cards any more than I would not carry my driver’s license.


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