If you are thinking about divorce, chances are you are feeling pretty lonely. If you are going through a divorce, you are probably feeling scared and lonely. And if you are dating after a divorce, who knows what you are feeling! Dating after divorce can be really fun, but it can also feel hopeless and lonely at times, like Mr. Right is never going to surface. There’s one thing that is sure to help with loneliness, and that is a hug. In this week’s Love Essentially, I interviewed a LCPC about the importance of hugs on a regular basis, and found out that hugs don’t just feel good, but hugs are good for your health, too!
Six Reasons You Need Hugs On A Regular Basis
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group
Ever have one of those days when life seems really hard? Maybe your boyfriend just broke up with you — again. Perhaps you recently found out a friend is ill. Or maybe you opened your credit card statement and your jaw just hit the ground. Perhaps you’re feeling lonely in your marriage, or your child is having problems at school and you feel helpless. Or maybe you have a chronic physical condition that feels exhausting.
Whatever challenges, pain and anxiety life brings (which can intensify during the holiday season), there is one thing guaranteed to help: a hug.
It might seem trivial, or like a temporary fix, but I’m telling you, a hug is a powerful thing. A hug is a magical feel-good drug that can foster a connection, soothe pain, relieve stress, improve emotional and physical health, and make people happier. If you don’t believe me, there are studies that prove it.
Charlotte Bishop is a Chicago-based aging life care manager/geriatric care manager who manages and supports seniors and their families in health care and lifestyle decisions.
Bishop, who has been in business for over 20 years, said that when people get older, they are at a risk for becoming more isolated and having less contact with others, which means fewer hugs. And, fewer hugs can have a negative impact on health and happiness.
“Touch-starved older adults fight health battles that those receiving regular hugs simply do not face,” said Bishop, a licensed clinical professional counselor, who also holds a master’s degree in rehabilitation. “A psychotherapist named Virginia Satir suggests that we need four real hugs a day just to survive, eight hugs a day to maintain our health and 12 or more hugs to grow.”
But not all hugs are equal. (Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune, the LA Times, the Pioneer Press, and several other newspapers across the country.)
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