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Difficult, Disrespectful and Toxic: How To Coparent With This Person

Divorce is never easy, and when children are involved, the complexities multiply. At DearDivorceCoach.com, we understand the myriad of challenges parents face when navigating co-parenting, and we focus how to coparent. We are also very aware of those situations in which coparenting can get extremely difficult when an ex spouse is disrespectful and toxic. That’s … Read more

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8 Job Searching Tips for Moms Going Back to Work After Divorce

Going back to work after divorce can truly feel daunting for many reasons. I experienced it firsthand. With fears that can include technology, leaving the kids with a nanny or in daycare, the big lifestyle change, and not feeling like you are capable of finding a job, it’s a stressful thought. But, it doesn’t have … Read more

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Dealing With Emotionally Immature Adults in Divorce

As a Family Law Attorney and Mediator, I hear these comments from some clients when they are completely frustrated with their soon-to-be ex and coparent: “She’s crazy!”“He’s a narcissist!”“No one is listening to me!” The unfortunate reality in family law is that you have to deal with complex family dynamics that could stem from issues … Read more

Depression and Divorce: Which Came First?

There are so many reasons people get divorced, but they all boil down to the same concept: one or both are unhappy in the marriage. And, unhappiness can lead to depression. In this article, I want to address depression and divorce, as it is often hard to know which came first. In other words, is … Read more

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Who Let the Dogs Out? My BRAND NEW Dating After Divorce Book

Dating after divorce can feel like a nightmare. At least it did for me. When I got divorced in 2008, I made a beeline for husband #2, which was the worst strategy a newly divorced person could take. My plan resulted in: dating all the wrong people, putting up with bad behavior, and putting a … Read more

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What NOT to Say To Someone Going Through a Divorce

When I was newly separated, I was brokenhearted. I also had feelings of fear, anger, resentment and confusion. I felt like I was living in a fog, like maybe I’d wake up the next day and this would all have been a dream. Unfortunately, the nightmare was real. What I do remember so vividly, even … Read more

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Representing Yourself In Family Court: Should You Do It?

A woman who was trying to save money in her divorce was shocked when she talked to a divorce lawyer. “This is crazy!” she said. “The divorce lawyer wants a $5,000 retainer fee – and that’s just the start! He won’t even tell me how much I’ll end up paying him overall. It could be … Read more

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Can’t Make Decisions During Divorce? We Understand!

Can’t make decisions during divorce? You’re not alone. Many people going through a divorce have a hard time making decisions for many reasons. These include:   Insecurity: You don’t have the confidence that the decisions you make will be the right ones. Indecision: Indecisiveness is very common in divorce. After all, these are big decisions … Read more

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Stop Shaming Yourself and Stop Apologizing: You Deserve Better!

To women going through a divorce or who are already divorced: Stop shaming yourself. Stop apologizing. Stop being mean to yourself! Stop criticizing yourself! I came up with the idea for this article after reading a post on LinkedIn that was written by Tracy Coenen, forensic accountant, founder of the wildly successful Divorce Money Guide, … Read more

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Life’s Not Fair – That Includes Your Divorce

Your parents were right: Life’s not fair! They probably said that to you since you were young, and way before you could even imagine how much those words meant while getting divorced! When life doesn’t seem fair, especially in your divorce, it can cause all sorts of unpleasant side effects. The Good, the Bad, and … Read more

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11 Things Divorced People Want To Say To Our Married Friends

Before I got divorced, I had no idea what I would experience, and what life after divorce would look like. So, that being said, divorced people should remember that all of our married friends have no clue about what it’s like going through a divorce or being divorced. Let’s help them out! Here are 11 things … Read more

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Setting Boundaries in Relationships-Especially The One With Your Ex

Setting boundaries in relationships–including the one with your ex is essential. Think of boundaries in your relationships as an important element of your self-care. Boundaries are not meant to punish somebody else. They are meant to honor ourselves. Imagine your boundaries as a personal treaty to help protect your needs and wants and to preserve … Read more