what makes a man want to get married

What Makes A Man Want To Get Married? These 9 Things

What makes a man want to get married? In my decade-long dating after divorce journey, I met, talked with, dated, became friends with, and got into relationships with dozens of divorced men, so I feel like I know the divorced man pretty darn well. Before I generalize and tell you who the divorced man is, … Read more

bad dating behavior

Beware of Bad Dating Behavior: My Story

I want to share something that happened to me while dating in an effort to make a few really good points about bad dating behavior and why you should steer clear from someone exhibiting it. Several years ago, I met someone in a business setting, who subsequently called and asked me out. We set up … Read more

dating a 40 year old man who has never been married

Dating a 40 Year Old Man Who has Never Been Married: My Story

What’s the opposite of a divorced man? If you answered “a married man” you’re wrong. When it comes to dating, the opposite of a divorced man is a guy who has never been married! Dating a 40 year old man who has never been married is interesting. I did it. Here’s my story. One night, … Read more

sex after divorce

Naked And Terrified: Why There’s No Need To Fear Sex After Divorce

Let’s talk about sex after divorce. I know this woman who has been divorced for a couple of years and recently began dating. She is in her 50’s and has two children. The first date she had was a flop-no attraction on either side. The second guy she went out with, she found out was … Read more

what it is like to fall in love after 50

What It Is Like To Fall In Love After 50?

Falling in love after 50 is really really surprising to men and women. How I know this is, I’ve gotten countless emails from readers who are getting divorced and they write that a huge fear for them is that they will never find love again. Then, the same people email me 6 months or a … Read more

fear of dating

3 Words For Those Who Have A Fear Of Dating

 I feel like I’ve gotten a lot of emails lately from readers who express a fear of dating after divorce. Having experienced it myself, I can say firsthand that I don’t blame them! Dating after divorce is terrifying for anyone. Fear of dating, especially after divorce is very common, normal and understandable. But that doesn’t … Read more

how to date after divorce at 40

How to Date After Divorce at 40: 11 Tips

As someone who dated from the time I was 16 until I got married at 35, and then dated again at 41 until I was 49, I have a lot to say on the subject of dating, both before and after divorce. In many ways, dating as a teenager isn’t much different than dating in … Read more

meet single people

8 Places to Meet Single People in the Suburbs And None are Bars!

Almost every divorced man or woman I know has made a comment at one time or another about how difficult it is to meet single people in the suburbs. After all, it’s easy to picture suburbia as a multitude of residential neighborhoods with tree lined street after tree lined street of picture perfect homes where … Read more

how long should you casually date someone

How Long Should You Casually Date Someone? Let’s Talk.

A Divorced Girl Smiling reader wrote this: I am recently divorced and not sure I want to get into another relationship right away, but don’t want to sleep around either. Is casual dating without sex even possible? And, how long should you casually date someone before they expect it to be more?  How long should … Read more

What Are “The Rules” When You Start Dating Again After Divorce?

This was posted on a the DGS group Facebook page: When you start dating again after divorce, what are the rules? I have no idea what the new normal is!   Her question made me think. Remember the self-help book “The Rules?” Officially titled, “The Rules: Time-Tested Secrets for Capturing the Heart of Mr. Right,” … Read more

I'm having an affair

I’m Having An Affair: Really? How’s That Working Out For You?

I get a lot of emails from readers who write, “I’m having an affair.” They either want to confess because they feel guilty, and/or they want to know if it’s going to work out and if so, how. I try not to judge people having affairs because every situation is unique. That said, I think … Read more

do looks matter more than personality

Do Looks Matter More than Personality? They Shouldn’t.

When it comes to dating after divorce, something that bugs me immensely (and both men and women are guilty of it) are that people think looks are the most important thing. Do looks matter more than personality? To some, yes. Do looks matter more than someone being a good, loyal, committed partner? To some, yes. … Read more