vindictive ex

The Vindictive Ex: When Hate Comes Before Children

Most divorced couples have issues with each other. That’s just the way it is. Getting divorced comes with a lot of pent up resentment that built during the marriage, and that happened during and after the divorce. Hopefully, negative feelings between spouse’s fade over time, and both move on and possibly even become friends. But, … Read more

divorce and the holidays

Divorce and the Holidays: Tips From a Mediator

Divorce and the holidays can get complicated and challenging for many reasons. Feelings of  anger, resentment, and hurt can often run high on the emotions list for divorced and divorcing parents. Add in the pressure they may feel to make sure the kids have a positive experience, and it can be a recipe for parental … Read more

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16 Bite-Sized Tips for Parenting after Divorce

When people go through a divorce, children rank among their biggest concerns. Are they going to be OK? How will the divorce affect them? Are they going to suffer PTSD? Will the effects of the divorce show up when the kids are grown? There are all very normal questions that cause anxiety during and after … Read more

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Confronting A Cheater: 4 Different Reactions You Could Get

 Can you imagine how difficult it would be confronting a cheater? “Um, honey…(in that walking on eggshell tone), can I talk to you?” I’ve done it and let me tell you, it’s brutal. It makes me angry to think that the person confronting the cheater has to stress and worry about it, when it’s the … Read more

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Staying With Someone Who Cheated On You: Is Marriage Counseling the Answer?

Staying with someone who cheated on you is a tough call. Every situation is unique. If someone cheats, that doesn’t necessarily mean he/she will do it again. Maybe it was a wakeup call that the marriage needs help. Maybe divorce isn’t the answer. That said, is the phrase “Once a cheater, always a cheater” accurate? … Read more

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Involving The Kids In The Divorce: It’s Just Disgusting

Men and women do horrible things during divorce. Many are so hurt and angry, that their number one goal becomes hurting the other person. But some sink to a level that is absolutely disgusting. I cannot think of anything more damaging, actually. Some people are so desperate and so full of hate, that they take … Read more

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Amicable Turned Ugly Divorce: 9 Reasons It Could Happen

When someone tells me they are going through “an amicable” divorce, I think it’s great, and I respect that mindset, but I also tend to feel a little bit skeptical. While I’d like to think it’s possible to have a friendly divorce versus an ugly divorce, I question whether it can stay that way, just … Read more

comparing your divorce

Comparing Your Divorce To Your Girlfriends’ Divorces?

Are you comparing your divorce to your girlfriends’ divorces? Don’t and here’s why: Because every divorce case is unique. I want to start off by explaining that there are six people who will determine what happens in your divorce: 1. You. 2. Your Ex. 3. The mediator. 4. His lawyer. 5. Your lawyer. 6. The … Read more

Want to Minimize Divorce Attorney Fees? Read this!

There are many components that add to the stress of going through a divorce, one of them being divorce attorney fees. Usually already concerned about finances, couples going through a divorce are now receiving a new monthly expense that can seem overwhelming and scary. That said, hiring an effective attorney who puts in the time … Read more

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Going through a divorce? Don’t Do Anything Stupid!

People going through a divorce do stupid things. It’s not a cut down and I’m not trying to be hurtful, it’s just reality. Trust me, when I was newly separated, I did more stupid things than anyone I know. Why the stupid things? Because going through a divorce is extremely difficult. It’s an emotional, stressful, … Read more

when you get divorced

10 People Who Might Not Like You When You Get Divorced

Don’t you feel like when you get divorced, there are two camps, and most people feel like they need to be in one? There are a few people who try to stay neutral, but then it’s just awkward, and let’s be honest, you can tell whose side they’re on.   With the camps come newly … Read more