Kids’ Competitive Sports And Marital Conflict

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

There are countless reasons for marital conflict, but the kids is probably pretty high up there on the list of the most common. In this week’s Love Essentially, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, I address marital strife that can be caused by different philosophies when it comes to kids’ competitive sports. 

How Kids’ Sports Can Cause Marital Strife by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

It’s out of control.” “It’s ridiculous.” “Sports isn’t everything.” “It’s just a game.” “My husband is so tough on him and sometimes it’s just too much for me.”

These are the words of a few different moms I spoke with on the subject of their kids playing competitive sports. Then I interviewed their husbands.

“She just doesn’t realize, kids only get one chance and if they miss too many games or practices, it can hurt them.” “My wife gives them a pass and makes excuses.” “She wants them to have fun and doesn’t see it as serious involvement.”


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As a parent who has sat in the bleachers for many years watching my kids play competitive sports, I didn’t really have to do these interviews to corroborate my belief that countless couples just can’t see eye to eye when it comes to their kids’ sports. (Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.)



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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

    One Response to “Kids’ Competitive Sports And Marital Conflict”

    1. Marquez-Kelly Law

      kid’s competitive sports may mean all the world to a child. though some parents think of it as less serious and “just a game”. it’s just so sad that some parents does not take time to understand their kid’s passion.


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