Is Getting Together With An Ex A Good Idea or A Recipe For Tears?

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

In this week’s Love Essentially, I offer the potential advantages and disadvantages of getting together with an ex. Is it a good idea to meet up? Maybe you need closure or just miss him (or her.) Or, will it re-break your heart? Here’s my take on it.

Should This Woman Go Out For A Beer With Her Ex-Boyfriend?

by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

There’s nothing easy about a breakup. In the weeks and months that follow the end of a long-term, serious relationship, feelings of anger, pain, sadness, loneliness, disappointment, regret, and fear of being alone are all normal. Plus, even if you knew the relationship wasn’t working, you miss the person.



But what happens when you’re trying to move on with your life, hanging out with your girlfriends, possibly starting to date again, and just trying to come to terms with what went wrong, when suddenly one day, out of the blue, you get a text from your ex that reads, “Want to go out for a beer?”

That’s what recently happened to a woman I know whose two-year relationship ended a few months ago. The reason for the breakup: She wanted to get engaged. He said he wasn’t sure if he ever wanted to get married.


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So, should she go out for a beer with him? Here are four reasons she might want to go, and four reasons she might want keep things status quo:

(Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, the LA Times, and several other major newspapers across the country.)

Like this article? Check out, “Why Can’t I Meet Anyone And Why Do I Always Feel Alone?”


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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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