Waiting For Mr. Right To Pop The Question?

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

This is a piece I wrote, intended for young women who think they found Mr. Right and who are now waiting for him to pop the question. 

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by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press

From the time we are little girls, women are shown through fairytales that happy endings almost always involve a prince rescuing us. The stories of Cinderella and Snow White are perfect examples of how a man “fixed” their bad situations by sweeping them off them off their feet to go live in a castle and be loved and adored unconditionally. Even modern movies like “Pretty Woman,” “Valentine’s Day” and “Sex & The City” are guilty of leaving us with that perfectly wrapped up ending where everyone is blissfully in love.

While there is no bigger fan of a love story with a happy ending than me, I think fairytales, romance novels and romantic comedy movies can cause women – especially young women, to have unrealistically high standards and expectations that men living on earth (not in a movie or children’s book) can’t possibly fulfill. As a result, women who are looking for love can become frustrated, disappointed and impatient when Prince Charming doesn’t show up and make all of life’s problems disappear with one magical kiss.

The idea for this column came from a reader who writes:

I am a 25-year-old single woman living in Chicago. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months and he’s made a couple of comments lately that lead me to believe he might not want to get married. I feel like if I stay with him, I might be wasting time. I don’t want another year to go by and still not be engaged. Any advice?


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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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