This is a piece I wrote, intended for young women who think they found Mr. Right and who are now waiting for him to pop the question.
12 Tips For Women Waiting For That Perfect Diamond Ring
by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press
From the time we are little girls, women are shown through fairytales that happy endings almost always involve a prince rescuing us. The stories of Cinderella and Snow White are perfect examples of how a man “fixed” their bad situations by sweeping them off them off their feet to go live in a castle and be loved and adored unconditionally. Even modern movies like “Pretty Woman,” “Valentine’s Day” and “Sex & The City” are guilty of leaving us with that perfectly wrapped up ending where everyone is blissfully in love.
While there is no bigger fan of a love story with a happy ending than me, I think fairytales, romance novels and romantic comedy movies can cause women – especially young women, to have unrealistically high standards and expectations that men living on earth (not in a movie or children’s book) can’t possibly fulfill. As a result, women who are looking for love can become frustrated, disappointed and impatient when Prince Charming doesn’t show up and make all of life’s problems disappear with one magical kiss.
The idea for this column came from a reader who writes:
I am a 25-year-old single woman living in Chicago. I have been dating my boyfriend for 10 months and he’s made a couple of comments lately that lead me to believe he might not want to get married. I feel like if I stay with him, I might be wasting time. I don’t want another year to go by and still not be engaged. Any advice?
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