Collaborative Divorce: Why You Might Want One

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

I had never heard of collaborative divorce until a few years ago. In fact, if I wasn’t the writer of this blog, I probably still wouldn’t know what it was. But collaborative divorce is becoming more and more well-known and well received, because it’s a way to get divorced that offers a better outcome for everyone–including the kids. And now, Illinois lawmakers have put their stamp of approval on the collaborative divorce process. Here is this week’s Love Essentially, which addresses the new law and how it might help you in your divorce.


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New Law Gives Thumbs Up For Amicable Divorce Process by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

Clean, simple, not complicated and not messy are words Danielle Dvorak used when describing her 2009 divorce.

“It was quicker, cheaper and easier on so many levels – emotionally, mentally, spiritually and physically – than a lot of other horror stories I’ve heard,” she said.

If you’re wondering how on earth someone can talk about their divorce in such a positive way, Dvorak said she credits the divorce process she and her ex chose to use: collaborative divorce, which is an alternative to traditional litigation. (Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.)

Like this article? Check out my blog post: “Amicable Turned Ugly Divorce: 9 Reasons It Could Happen”



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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

    3 Responses to “Collaborative Divorce: Why You Might Want One”

    1. Blogger

      Based on my experiences in the court room, collaborative divorce is a great idea. Traditional contested divorces are too cumbersome, take too long, and cost too much money. If a separating couple can have a collaborative divorce, doing so will save them a lot of headache.

    2. Derek J.

      Collaborative divorce is ideal- especially when children are involved. However, what would be the second best option if you can’t get your soon to be ex to agree on collaborative divorce?

      • Jackie Pilossoph

        I would think that the second best option would be to get two attorneys who are motivated to settling the case out of court. Then sit down with the attorneys and possibly a mediator and try to come to agreements on things. I truly believe everyone ends up happier if they had something to do with the way things are set up. It’s when you are forced by a court ruling to do certain things and pay certain things that people become angry, bitter and resentful.


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