Tips and advice for men and women who have recently split up from a spouse and are now getting divorced.
Like any fifty-something woman, any kind of change or doing something I’ve never done before induces anxiety and fear. In other words, change and fear go hand-in-hand for so many people. It’s uncomfortable to do something different. So, when my high school girlfriends and I decided to go to Naples for a long weekend, I … Read more
Divorce is a wild rollercoaster ride of emotions with major life-changing decisions that need to be made during a period of tremendous stress. One of the biggest decisions has to do with homeownership after divorce. Will you stay in your home? Will you sell it? Will you buy a new home? Will you rent? As … Read more
What is self-compassion? Let’s start with “what is sense of self?” In our complex and dynamic world, external factors exist that we have little to no control over. This creates internalized emotions that we often misread, misinterpret, and misunderstand. We spend time trying to eat healthier, sleep better, achieve balance, be mindful, and access our tools, … Read more
When I hear from women, “He never loved me,” or “He said, ‘I never loved you,’” I completely understand how brutal that can be. I have been there. I was in a relationship with someone for years, who I now realize never loved me. Coming to that realization of “He never loved me” or having … Read more
Can my marriage be saved? This is the reason couples come to see me, a discernment counselor. In one to four sessions, we aim to have the answer, and to have both partners on the same page. Although every couple has a unique story and situation, there are certain things that go on and statements … Read more
When it comes to divorce, recognizing opportunities can be difficult, since divorce can feel chaotic. Your world is suddenly upside down. Chaos is the opposite of control. Now consider the word “opportunity.” For me, this has positive emotions connected to it, as in, “What a great opportunity!” I’ve never heard anyone say, “That’s a terrible … Read more
When I think of a bully, I think of grade school or middle school kids being mean on the playground. But any one at any age can be a bully and that includes during divorce. I’m talking about the divorce bully. When people are getting divorced, they deal with all kinds of emotions: resentment, anger, … Read more
People think divorce harms children, when in fact it’s not the divorce itself, it’s the conflict that goes along with it. But if parents can put aside their differences and focus on the well-being of their children, they are engaging in the ultimate act of love, and providing a foundation of security, love, and emotional … Read more
No one in their right mind would ever knowingly give up their ability to control their own future, would they? Surprisingly, when it comes to divorce, I see people doing exactly that every single day. Without even realizing it, you may be giving away your power in your divorce. Giving Away Your Power in Your … Read more
Sobriety and recovery are interconnected but distinct concepts. Sobriety refers to the temporary state of abstaining from alcohol, often a court-mandated requirement for parents in custody disputes. However, recovery extends beyond mere abstinence. It involves addressing the underlying causes of alcohol misuse, achieving emotional and psychological stability, and adopting sustainable strategies for a healthier life. … Read more
The way we perceive and interpret our world is shaped by our values, beliefs, and past experiences, forming what is known as a mindset. During divorce, which we all know is a time of significant emotional and logistical upheaval, your mindset can either add to the stress or help you navigate the process with strength … Read more
Supervised visitation, also known as supervised parenting time often presents unique challenges and opportunities for families navigating difficult circumstances. Whether you are the parent receiving supervised parenting time or the parent facilitating it, understanding its purpose and embracing the right mindset can set the stage for success. Here are 10 things to know about supervised … Read more
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