The Angelina Jolie Brad Pitt divorce, also known as the end of Brangelina has people stunned, and I really don’t understand why. While I am a huge fan of the couple—because I love that they adopted kids and that they both engage in so many humanitarian projects, I am not really surprised that the marriage didn’t work out. Here are my reasons:
1. The relationship began as an affair. Back in 2004 when their relationship began, Brad was still married to Jennifer Aniston. I’m not going to say I know for a fact that he was cheating, or that he ended the marriage for Angelina, but here are some facts. Aniston filed for divorce in March of 2015. In July, Pitt posed for a magazine cover with Jolie and her kids, talking about the bliss of family life. That was four months after his wife filed for divorce. You do the math. But regardless of whether or not he was cheating, Brad jumped right into another serious relationship (with a woman who had kids) before he even had time to heal or to really think about the end of his marriage to Aniston. That isn’t healthy for anyone going through a divorce. I’m not judging, by the way, I’m just stating my belief that most relationships that begin either as affairs or very shortly after the split don’t end up working out. Call it bad karma or bad timing, perhaps, but it really comes down to the fact that there was no break—no healing time before Brad engaged in a serious commitment again.
2. They are both huge celebrities. Marriage is hard enough, but can you imagine being a celebrity and being married?? Tabloids following you everywhere, every person in love with you, every person on earth flirting with you and articles and photos of your personal life plastered all over the internet, along with fake headlines about something bad happening to you. That creates stress and anxiety, jealousy with one another, perhaps, and maybe lack of trust between the couple that wouldn’t otherwise be there.
3. They have 6 kids. Kids put a huge strain on marriages, whether both of the parents work or one stays home. I’m not saying couples with 6 kids always end up divorced, but having that many kids cuts into alone time, and the chaotic environment can cause additional stress and anxiety.
4. Drinking and drugs. There are rumors that Pitt was behaving inappropriately around the kids, drinking and getting high. I’m not confirming this is the case, but just saying that if it is, that is definitely going to affect the marriage. One of the biggest reasons people get divorced is alcoholism and or drug addiction, when the person refuses to acknowledge that there is a problem and refuses to address it and get help.
5. Anger. Again, this is also a rumor at this point. But if what the articles say about Pitt having anger issues are true, than it is not surprising that Jolie would leave him. When someone is angry, it is very very scary to be around. Someone being angry a lot can also cause resentment, in other words, “What does he/she have to be so angry about??” Anger can also cause the other person to get tired of it and lose respect for the angry person. Anger must be addressed through therapy—talk and cognitive. Otherwise, it will ultimately affect a marriage.
6. Cheating. I read something that stated Jolie had Pitt followed and found out he cheated. This could completely be false, but with marital problems, cheating usually follows, which then is another reason someone wants a divorce. People always guess that cheating is the number one reason for divorce, but I disagree. I think other problems lead to cheating, which then leads to the split.
7. Statistics were not on their side. If 50% of second marriages end in divorce, they had a 50/50 chance. If 70% of third marriages end in divorce, they had a 30% chance. Sad, but true.
Something else that entered my mind is, why did they have to get married? They managed to stay together for 10 years before they decided to officially tie the knot. Did the marriage certificate mess things up? Maybe couples have a better chance of staying together if they don’t feel the pressure of a legal document.
In addition to all the possible reasons the Pitt’s didn’t have good odds of making it, I have one more: Being gorgeous, famous, wealthy and philanthropic, and then trying to maintain that every minute is probably exhausting. Maybe the pressure of trying to be too perfect to the public eye was just too much for them.
Regardless of why they decided to get divorced, I am sad over the split of Brangelina, mostly because of their 6 children. A power couple holding it together with 6 kids, looking beautiful all the time and giving back to the world as they did gave people a fairytale images of a domestic relationship. Unfortunately the fairytale just ended.
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