I offer a lot of divorce and dating advice, largely based on questions I receive from readers. What I have found over the past couple of years is, the question I seem to get asked almost daily is: Where (or how) do I meet single men or women?
I’m not surprised. I think it’s human nature that we crave love and companionship. Even after broken heart (after broken heart after broken heart), we keep coming back for more. It’s a thought that makes me smile because it’s proof of people’s hopeful spirit, romantic tendencies and passion to give and receive love.
So, where can you meet single men and women? I’m actually going to take bars out of this post, A. because the latest reader who asked me where to meet someone said “I’m not a fan of meeting men in bars,” and B. Because I’m not either.
Here are 26 places and ways to meet single men and women:
- Through volunteer work.
- Through your dog: walks, doggie parks, pet stores
- At the Apple Store
- At fundraising events.
- Through your married friends.
- Through your single friends.
- On a blind date. (You must ask people you know to set you up)
- At a live music venue (this doesn’t count as a bar in my opinion)
- At professional sporting events.
- On-line dating sites.
- Social media outlets: LinkedIn, facebook, twitter, Cyber Dust
- At the gym.
- Jogging trails
- Car wash places
- Business functions
- Through work (some say that’s a no-no but I disagree.)
- Playing tennis
- Through business networking groups.
- Meetup groups
- Matchmaking services
- Running errands.
- Hate to say it, but it’s true: Starbucks
- Outdoor street festivals.
- Through your kids (other parents.)
- Through your divorce attorney or other professionals (dentist, doctor, accountant, etc.) but you have to ask!
Here are three rules I live by that I think will increase your chances to meet single men and women:
- Stop saying “no” to set ups and social events. Just say yes to everything. Your odds of meeting someone go way up when you actually leave your house!
- Network: Ask friends and family and acquaintances to introduce you to people. Treat meeting someone like a job.
- Having platonic friendships can lead to love. I can’t stand when two people go out on a date and just because there was no spark, they say good-bye forever. They are both missing out on having just another friend in life. Platonic friends can only enrich your life, and lead to a better social life which will offer you more fun and the possibility of meeting the man or woman of your dreams.
In closing, I want to say one more thing. I’m not saying don’t go to bars. Bars are fun and talking to people is harmless and can actually lead to friendships, as well. But, the red flag associated with bars is possible excessive drinking, which can lead to bad decisions and judgment.