Valentines Day: Great Holiday but Not the Only Gift Giving Opportunity

By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

Today is Valentines Day, an exciting day for young kids, a depressing day for people who aren’t in a relationship who want to be in one, and a good day for those who have a significant other (in most cases.)

I say “in most cases” because I have to believe most men do something for their significant other on Valentine’s Day. They do something because they want to show their loved one that they care, perhaps. But let’s be honest, any guy knows if he doesn’t make an effort to at least buy his wife/girlfriend a card or flowers, he’s in deep do-do.

I want to express how I feel about Valentine’s Day. One would think since I am a romance novelist and since I write about dating and love and romance often that I’d be a huge fan of Valentine’s Day. I am and I’m not.

I love Valentine’s Day in that it’s a great way to express to someone your feelings of love and lust. It’s the one day of the year when you get to give someone a huge teddy bear or a dozen red roses or heart shaped cookies or chocolates.

But is it? Is Valentine’s Day really “the one day of the year” you can express your love through flowers and candy and a card? No!

I think if you really love someone, Valentine’s Day should be a heck of a lot more than once a year. Kind gestures go a long way in a relationship. A card, a single rose, a new bottle of cologne…People appreciate gifts that don’t come on gift giving holidays. Gifts that are given just because.

Additionally, I think it means more to get a gift or a card from your spouse on a day that isn’t Valentine’s Day, which is the other 364 days of the year.

Wouldn’t it be nice to surprise your guy with a new tie and a really nice card telling him you love him on a random Tuesday? How do you think it would make your girl feel if you came over to her house with a dozen roses with a card that said, “I appreciate you?” in April?

My point is, Valentine’s Day can be really fun, especially if you are at the beginning of a new relationship. That first Valentine’s Day really is special. It’s also a GREAT GREAT day for kids, to watch their faces light up when they see candy and stuffed animals. But even with kids, wouldn’t they appreciate an “I love you” card at other times of the year that aren’t Valentine’s Day?

Happy Valentine’s Day, everyone. If you have a significant other, enjoy. If you don’t, who cares?! Buy YOURSELF a gift. If you get your significant other a gift and he/she doesn’t get YOU one, don’t fret. Tis better to give than to receive. Seriously. If you get a gift from your significant other and you don’t get him/her one, hmmm…. To me, that would be the worst scenario. LOL!!


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Editor-in-chief: Jackie Pilossoph

Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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