Texting Love Leads To Self-Love And Possibly Love

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Founder, Divorced Girl Smiling, the place to find trusted, vetted divorce professionals, a podcast, website and mobile app.

All day long, we are bombarded with emails and texts, and it can get overwhelming. But how many of those messages are sent with the intent of love? A fraction. In this week’s Love Essentially, I address the importance of texting love, meaning sending nice messages to those you love and care for, just to make the person smile and feel good. There are so many benefits to doing this, not just for the recipient, but for the sender!

The Benefits of Typing Love

by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

Have you ever wondered how many texts and emails you send a week? In my case, it has to be in the hundreds. But how many of those messages are typed solely for the purpose of making someone feel loved, important, adored, respected or less stressed? Probably a fraction.



Let me explain how I got the idea for this article. Last week, my dog had a reaction to a vaccine he received. He was so sick, was throwing up, and had no energy or appetite. He wouldn’t even drink water. To say I was worried is an understatement. So, I took him to the vet they gave him a couple medications to stop the reaction. He began feeling much better.

When I saw he was improving, I sent texts to all the people who were concerned about him: my mom, my sister, my kids and my boyfriend. The texts read, “Jackson is feeling much better!” Why did I send the texts? Because each of those people (like everyone else on this earth) has his or her own set of problems, and I felt like I could take some stress off their plate. In other words, I wanted each of them to get the text and exhale, and think, “Well, now I have one less thing to think about. Scratch that worry off the list.”

It got me thinking that almost every message we receive is a question, an issue, a problem or a need. At least that’s how it feels to me. Even the news that pops up on our phones is usually negative. Messages of love do come occasionally — like on a holiday or a birthday. But I bet those kinds of texts are a very small percentage of all of the messages people send and receive.



What if everyone decided he or she was going to type 10 messages per day — text or email, for nothing other than making the recipients feel good?…

Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, The Chicago Tribune, and several other newspapers across the U.S.

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    Jackie Pilossoph is the Founder of Divorced Girl Smiling, the media company that connects people facing with divorce to trusted, vetted divorce professionals. Pilossoph is a former NBC affiliate television journalist and Chicago Tribune/Pioneer Press features reporter. Her syndicated column, Love Essentially was published in the Chicago Tribune/Pioneer Press and Tribune owned publications for 7 1/2 years. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University. Learn more at: DivorcedGirlSmiling.com

    One Response to “Texting Love Leads To Self-Love And Possibly Love”

    1. Lulu Acosta

      Love the idea of having love with each text we send! Such a small change to make, but I can see how it could make me feel fuller inside!


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