In this week’s Love Essentially, published today in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press, I did a survey, asking over 3000 men and women on Facebook what their relationship deal breakers are.
Survey Reveals Top 20 Deal Breakers in a Relationship by Jackie Pilossoph
In every romantic relationship, there are things about the other person that bother us, annoy us and even drive us a little crazy. He leaves his dirty socks on the floor. She takes two hours to get ready for a party. He is glued to the couch during football season with the exception of answering the door for the pizza delivery guy.
Perfection in any relationship is impossible, but if we love someone enough, we are wiling to overlook certain things and instead appreciate all the wonderful attributes that make it work.
But what happens when you discover something about him or her and you know in your heart you just can’t live with it? Often described as a deal breaker, his or her behavior can be horrifying, extremely disappointing, really scary or gut-wrenchingly sad. A deal breaker is the realization that your only choice is to break up because you know the person won’t or can’t change.
Everyone’s deal breakers are unique personal choices. I know what my deal breakers are, but I was curious to hear what others had to say on the subject. So, I reached out to over 3,000 men and women on Facebook and asked. Here are the 20 most popular deal breakers:
Dishonesty
Smoking
Someone trying to change me
Harsh critic
Big drinker
Lazy
Someone who hasn’t evolved or done the work on himself/herself
Someone who lives with his mother
A pot smoker
Someone who thinks sex is an annoying obligation
Abusive
A guy who wears jean shorts
Someone who values money over love
Someone who is mean
Someone who is dirty/slovenly
Nutty family
Arrogance
Someone prone to addictions
Someone unemployed for long periods of time
Some of these might seem silly. Others are serious issues. But all are qualities, habits, addictions, character flaws or circumstances that people just can’t or simply don’t want to live with.
So as not to dwell on negativity, I decided to ask this same group of people what their deal sealers are – in other words, what factors would have them diving into a relationship?
Responses included:
Someone who actually does what they say they are going to do
Someone with quiet confidence who is happily self-reliant, present focused and sees the humor in being human
Loyal, honest and willing to work through issues
Confident
Consistency
Someone who likes me for who I am
Someone who makes me feel loved and protected
Someone I respect and look up to
Someone I feel I can trust as much as I trust my own family
A giver
The thing about deal breakers and deal sealers is…Click here to read the rest of the column, published today in Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press!
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