What is a relationship deal breaker? Just what it sounds like. Relationship deal breakers are things that makes a person decide to break up. A deal breaker can be something the person does that is disappointing, scary, sad, annoying or even horrifying. You know the person isn’t going to change, or you have asked the person to change and he or she can’t or won’t so the only option is out!
Everyone’s relationship deal breakers are unique personal choices. Things they can/want to live with and things they can’t/wont.
I know what my deal breakers are, but I was curious to hear what others had to say on the subject. So, I reached out to over 3,000 men and women on Facebook and asked.
Here are the 20 most popular relationship deal breakers:
1. Cheating.
2. Dishonesty
3. Smoking
4. Someone trying to change me
5. Harsh critic
6. Big drinker
7. Lazy
8. Someone who hasn’t evolved or done the work on himself/herself
9. Someone who lives with his mother
10. A pot smoker
11. Someone who thinks sex is an annoying obligation
12. Abusive
13. A guy who wears jean shorts
14. Someone who values money over love
15. Someone who is mean
16. Someone who is dirty/slovenly
17. Nutty family
18. Arrogance
19. Someone prone to addictions
20. Someone unemployed for long periods of time
Some of these might seem silly. Others are serious issues. But all are qualities, habits, addictions, character flaws or circumstances that people just can’t or simply don’t want to live with.
Remember this. In every romantic relationship, there are things about the other person that bother us, annoy us and even drive us a little crazy. He leaves his dirty socks on the floor. She takes two hours to get ready for a party. He is glued to the couch during football season with the exception of answering the door for the pizza delivery guy.
Perfection in any relationship is impossible, but if we love someone enough, we are wiling to overlook certain things and instead appreciate all the wonderful attributes that make it work.
In closing, so as not to dwell on negativity, I decided to ask this same group of people what their deal sealers are – in other words, what factors would have them diving into a relationship?
Responses included:
1. Someone who actually does what they say they are going to do
2. Someone with quiet confidence who is happily self-reliant, present focused and sees the humor in being human
3. Loyal, honest and willing to work through issues
4. Confident
5. Consistency
6. Someone who likes me for who I am
7. Someone who makes me feel loved and protected
8. Someone I respect and look up to
9. Someone I feel I can trust as much as I trust my own family
10. A giver
In closing, remember to NEVER settle and ignore your relationship dealbreakers. That’s how you either end up miserable in your relationship and/or divorced. Keep seeking your deal sealers!! You deserve that.
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