I understand how hard it can be to re-enter the dating world. Looking for love, you desperately want to find that special someone to share your life with but have no idea where to start. Summer seems like the perfect time to find someone, but you’re also reminded of just how lonely you are when you see your friends out on adventures with their partners.
It’s important to keep perspective. While it may seem like everyone around you is in a healthy, happy, and loving relationship, chances are that’s far from the truth. In reality, there are plenty of single people all around us and you’re definitely not alone in your dating struggles. The key to dating this summer – or any time for that matter – is to stay positive, be realistic, manage expectations, and be open to possibilities.
If you’re dating and looking for love this summer, there are some other things you need to keep in mind.
5 Relationship Truths To Remember:
1. In spite of many bad relationships, a great relationship IS possible.
It doesn’t matter if you’ve been “unlucky in love.” All that matters is that you take the steps necessary to build a healthy, loving relationship. It’s important to take different steps than the ones you have taken in the past. Being open to the right relationship is key.
2. You don’t have to have the relationship your parents had.
Regardless of the example that was set for you or the worldview of past generations, your life and decisions belong to you. Choose how you will go about your relationships instead of blindly walking through them and trying to emulate the way your mother approached her own relationships. You are your own person and your relationship is yours and yours alone.
3. Being together makes you a better person.
When you find the right person, your relationship will grow deeper through the good times and the difficult times. Going through tough things together will help create a more intimate connection.
4. Find someone who understands your “quirks.”
When you find “the one,” they will accept you completely – despite any weird or strange personality traits or quirks. In fact, they will love you because of those things because they are what make you who you are.
5. You can only have a great relationship when you don’t need one.
We’ve all heard the philosophy that the right relationship comes when you aren’t looking for one. It may sound cliche, but it’s true and worth repeating. You will only find a healthy relationship when you are comfortable being alone and aren’t reliant on a relationship for your happiness.
As you navigate the world of dating, it’s important to keep those 5 things in mind. It can be easy to get frustrated or give up, but as long as you keep perspective and practice patience, and try to enjoy yourself, you’ll be just fine.
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Sue De Santo is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker who has been a therapist in private practice for over 20 years. A graduate Loyola University with a Masters Degree in Social Work, Sue is also holds a certification in Relationship Coaching from the Relationship Coaching Institute. Sue has extensive experience in women’s issues, anxiety and depression, substance abuse, grief counseling, relationship issues, divorce recovery and couples counseling. To learn more, visit: suedesanto.com. This article was originally published on Sue’s blog.
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