7 Tips For Women Dating Over 40

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

Anyone who is dating over 40 will attest to the fact that it can be really challenging for many reasons. These include anything from juggling kids’ schedules to the insecurities and fear that come with divorce and just being older, in general.

 

Below is a video blog in which I asked a few women over 40 to offer divorce and dating advice, rather than just giving my own.

Listen to 7 tips these wonderful women offered to women dating over 40!

 

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1. Listen to your gut feeling.

If you see a red flag, pay attention. You’re over 40 so your gut should be good by now!

 

2.Don’t put pressure on yourself to meet your husband.

Realize that there are so many diff kinds of partners, and you don’t necessarily have to focus on dating someone you think you are going to marry. Maybe you just want a traveling buddy or someone you want to live with or even marriage, but keep in mind there are no rules. In other words, it’s OK to date for a different reason other than to find a husband.

3. Take it slow.

Things don’t have to happen quickly. Take your time regroup, rethink, maybe even reevaluate what you’re looking for. And on dates, really get to know the person.

 

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4. Do a background check.

In this day and age, with social media (like Facebook and LinkedIn) and Google searches, it’s easy to get information about the person. There are liars out there who will say they are divorced when in fact they are still married. (Not just separated, but really married.) And, people often mislead others about other things, such as their career.

5. Be yourself.

We tend to think we have to be what someone wants. Just be yourself, know what you want, and let someone love you for who you really are. That is the definition of real love.

6. Consider his/her relationship with their kids.

If it’s good and they are close and in tune with what their kids are up to, that’s great. If they are not, that raises a red flag.

 

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7. Don’t settle.

You’re beautiful and smart and you know what you want. What I mean by that is, one of the benefits of dating over 40 is that we most likely already fell for the frogs. Listen to your gut, don’t ignore red flags, and do not settle for anything that is less than perfect. Of course, every relationship and every person has flaws, but you know in your heart what the biggies are. Don’t compromise. Ever again.

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Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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