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5 Benefits of Divorced Parents Sharing a Nanny

Divorce brings a significant life-long shift in family dynamics, affecting everyone involved, especially children. Managing co-parenting alongside work, personal life, and household responsibilities can quickly become an overwhelming challenge for parents. One innovative solution that more and more divorced parents are exploring is sharing a nanny. Sharing a nanny provides continuity and reduced parenting stress. … Read more

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The Benefits of Healthy Co-parenting

When you divorce, you don’t divorce your children.  Nor do you and your spouse end your relationship as parents. It’s not easy, but if you are willing to engage in healthy co-parenting, there are so many benefits for your kids and for you, as well. How you handle your ongoing relationship as parents requires work, … Read more

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Divorce and Children: How to Answer Those Tough Questions They Ask

When it comes to divorce and children, there is nothing more gut-wrenchingly sad than when your child, wide-eyed and hopeful, asks you this question: “Are you and dad ever going to get back together?” These and other divorce questions from kids can feel like a punch in the stomach, causing anxiety, guilt and sorrow. There … Read more

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Change, Anxiety and Your Kids: Tips From a Parent Mediator

As summer draws to a close, you might find yourself navigating a variety of transitions—camp ends, family vacations, and, of course, the start of a new school year. That’s a lot of change, anxiety and stress over just a few weeks.   These shifts can heighten anxiety for everyone—parents and children alike—especially for neurodiverse children … Read more

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How Long Does Child Support Last? Unfortunately, Not Long Enough

When I was first getting divorced, one of the first questions I asked my attorney was, “How long does child support last?” In the state of Illinois, it lasts until the child is 18, or when he/she graduates from high school. At the time, my kids were 3 and 5 so that seemed like a … Read more

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What Father’s Day Means To An Ex-Wife

When I think of Father’s Day, I think of my dad and always will. But there is another father who is significant on Father’s Day: my ex-husband. Why is he important? Because he is my children’s father. So, regardless of personal feelings, resentment, anger, or frustration that he might bring me, at times, the fact … Read more

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The Blended Family: Advantages and Disadvantages

The blended family. It sounds so perfect. After all, the Brady Bunch seemed pretty happy, didn’t they? What the iconic seventies sitcom never showed us was that Mrs. Brady almost assuredly got on the boys’ nerves, at times, and the girls probably wished they could spend some time alone with just their mom—without the rest … Read more

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Trying To Celebrate The Holidays During Divorce

Ask anyone who is divorced and he or she will tell you that the pain it causes can sometimes feel unbearable. Then add in the holidays—especially that first Christmas or Hanukkah and New Years after a separation. It’s very very hard. Trying to celebrate the holidays during divorce is stressful, sad, confusing and sometimes bittersweet. … Read more

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What is Reunification Therapy and How Does it Work?

What is Reunification therapy? Reunification Therapy (RT) is often court-ordered for separated or divorced families, where there is a favored parent and a rejected parent. The goal of reunification therapy is to restore a disrupted parent-child relationship. While the term is commonly used in the court systems, there are actually no standard therapeutic protocols for … Read more

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A Checklist For Divorced Moms On Father’s Day

There are only a few guarantees when it comes to most divorce cases. Two of them include: Mom gets the kids on Mother’s Day and Dad gets them on Father’s Day. I’d have to bet it’s written that way in almost every divorce decree, not including cases of sole custody and other special circumstances.   … Read more

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How to be a Successful Single Mother: Handle It

My late father was one of the wisest people I have ever known. Among his countless displays of knowledge and perception was his ability to counsel this single mom. When I was going through my divorce, I would call him and tell him about a problem I was having, he would offer advice with specific … Read more