3 Reasons Not to Share the Details of Divorce With the Kids

We all know about the feelings of anger and resentment that divorce can cause; feelings that might cause frustration. Part of feeling frustrated is wanted to vent-to tell others the details of divorce that are bothering you. You may be tempted to share the story and details of your divorce with your kids. This is … Read more

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The Newly Separated Get Unexpected Gifts

When I was newly separated, a few people sent me cards, which I appreciated, and a couple people actually got me gifts! I remember laughing while opening up a little lipstick pouch given to me by a girlfriend, and thinking, ‘She’s giving me a lipstick case as a small hint that if I want to … Read more

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My Ex is Dating Someone Else and it Hurts: Tips on Coping

There’s something I hear from so many of my clients and it’s heartbreaking: “My ex is dating someone else and it hurts.” It doesn’t matter if you’ve spent months, years, or decades with someone—learning that they are dating someone else after your divorce can be so painful and difficult to process. Simply finding your ex’s … Read more

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“The Divorce is Driving Me Crazy!” 5 Things That Will Drive You Nuts

Ever feel like your divorce is driving you crazy? Anyone who has ever gone through a divorce has at one point or another, (probably more than once, maybe ongoing) felt that feeling of madness,frustration, and constant disappointment by the way their ex is acting. One month, he just decides he’s not paying child support, another … Read more

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Why Couldn’t He Change For Me? We Have Answers

One of the most difficult, frustrating aspects of a break up or a divorce is seeing the other person become involved with someone else, and not only appearing to be blissfully happy, but seemingly being the perfect spouse! It’s crazy, it’s infuriating, and  it’s hard to comprehend. Now he’s doing all these things with this … Read more

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The Brutal Pain Of Divorce And 7 Reasons You Will End Up Happy

I cannot describe how heartbreaking I feel when I read comments on Divorced Girl Smiling like this one, that unveil the brutal pain of divorce:   How do you shake the “never want to wake up” feeling? I’m so miserable. Every single day is pain and I just want to give up.   Before I … Read more

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19 Tips for Those Facing a High Conflict Divorce

What exactly is a high conflict divorce? Some people describe it as a battle, a stressful time filled with anger, resentment and hate, a time when kids are put in the middle and see the ugliness of their parents fighting, both in court and at home.   Believe it or not, only about 8-15% of … Read more

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I Am Angry With God About My Divorce

Read this email I received from a newly separated mom, who says, “I am angry with God about my divorce.”   I find myself completely hopeless and I am angry with God about my divorce.  My 3rd husband, for whom I left my 2nd husband just could not handle being a stepfather and hated my … Read more

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He Has A New Girlfriend Already! How To Handle It

Your divorce isn’t even final yet, and he has a new girlfriend already. Here she is, all smiles, happy and glowing. Her hair is perfect. Her nails are always done, even her toenails look good. This girl has prepped to the hilt. She’s still in that new relationship phase when she’s got to look perfect … Read more

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Why Some People Recover From Divorce And Others Stay Stuck

We all know that divorce, especially high conflict divorce, can be devastating. Some men and women are so traumatized, that it takes them years to recover from divorce. Really high conflict divorces have even been known to cause post traumatic stress disorder (PTSD).   Yet, while some men and women struggle to survive, others thrive. Instead … Read more

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7 Tips On How To Get Through a Divorce Emotionally

I’d like to share some tips on how to get through a divorce emotionally. Divorce truly is an emotional roller coaster. Ups and downs. One day you feel amazing…confident and great about the future, and then something happens and you feel crushed and scared and insecure and hopeless. I would say that that’s how it … Read more