18 Things Men Say About Their Ex Wives by Emma Johnson

By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

This is a guest post by journalist and divorce blogger, Emma Johnson, author of her blog, Wealthy Single Mommy. I came across Emma’s blog a few days ago and loved, loved, loved this post! I found it to be hysterically funny, but sad, too and VERY accurate! Enjoy!

18 Things Men Say About Their Ex Wives by Emma Johnson

When divorced people date, they talk about divorce. A lot. And that means talking about your ex. A lot. Which means through dating, I’ve heard a whole lot of thoughts and opinions from men about their ex-wives. Ladies, here’s how your ex feels about you:

  • Until you split up, he never appreciated how much you did for the kids and the house.
  • When you keep having fights with your friends it validates his opinion that you are impossible to get along with.
  • You’re a really great mom.
  • You’re messing up the kids.
  • He wanted to be that guy who cheered you on as you pushed the baby out, and caught him as you squeezed the child out your bleeding vagina. But now that he did that, he feels differently about your vagina. He’s not proud of that, but it is what it is.
  • He wanted to be that guy who loved you and found you attractive no matter how fat you got. But he just isn’t attracted to you now. No matter how hard he tries.
  • He did love you no matter what.
  • One day he realized he didn’t love you anymore.
  • When you didn’t have sex for months and years, it didn’t just hurt his feelings. It devastated him, and made him worry about his manhood and himself. It was a really, really big deal.
  • You insisted everything be done your way, which made him not want to do anything at all.
  • Now that he’s on his own with the kids, he’s a better dad.
  • He loved being the provider while you stayed home with the kids.
  • Now that he’s paying child support and alimony, he really resents that you gave up your career.
  • He’s a little bit happy that you’re struggling financially because maybe now you’ll appreciate how hard he worked how much you blew through all the money he earned. And by a little bit happy, he really means a lot happy.
  • It’s not that he liked her better than you. It’s just that she liked him back.
  • He’s so much happier now!
  • He wants to kill your boyfriend.
  • Sometimes when you have the kids and it’s late at night, he secretly wishes you’d text him and ask him to come sleep at home.


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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

    4 Responses to “18 Things Men Say About Their Ex Wives by Emma Johnson”

    1. Jamie Beck

      This post made me sad, too. I watch friends struggle as their marriages end; second-guessing the choices they’ve made, the way they’d acted during the marriage, etc. I wonder how many divorced couples really tried EVERYTHING before pulling the trigger and calling it quits. I know, for many, it is the right answer. But this post made me think of the ones who regret it (or who didn’t want it but weren’t given a choice).


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