10 Tips to Transform Your Life From Fine to Fabulous

fine to fabulous

By Michèle Heffron, Divorce, Relationships and Life Coach

Why Settle for FINE When You Can Have FABULOUS? Going from fine to fabulous isn’t as hard as you think. In this article, I am going to offer 10 tips that will transform your life.

How many times a day do we respond with “I’m fine” when asked how we’re doing? Has life become so incredibly drab that “fine” is the only response we can come up with?  

I love this line from the film The Italian Job starring Charlize Theron and Mark Walberg.  

I paraphrase: 

“…you know what FINE means? …It means: 

Freaked out. Insecure. Neurotic. (and) Emotional …F.I.N.E.” 

Spare me!  

And if you think about it, it’s most likely true every time spoken by a woman who’s trying to look as calm and sleek as a duck on top of the water while her little webbed feet are paddling on overdrive just beneath the surface.  

I don’t know about you, but in my opinion, there is nothing Fabulous about FINE.  

Going from fine to FABULOUS is meant to be fun, fulfilling, and all about YOU. This means putting YOU first. You may have been taught that putting yourself first in line is being selfish, self-centered, and immoral. Who in your life told you that? What did they base this unhelpful piece of unsolicited advice on? It’s time to throw that old nonsense out the window and step into your FABULOUSNESS. So, let’s adjust your thinking and dive into a few of my personal favorites for moving from fine to FABULOUS.  

Here are 10 Things you can do to transform your life from fine to FABULOUS: 

 

1. SELF LOVE.

It all starts here, and I believe it’s impossible to live a truly FABULOUS life without establishing a healthy sense of self love. Self love is not a feeling, it’s a way of life, it’s what we do for ourselves daily to remember who we are and what we’re meant for. Self-care is an expression of self love meaning you do and say things to generate an authentic sense of honoring YOU. It may come in the form of creating affirmations to remind yourself of how incredibly loved you are; it may come in the form of setting and enforcing healthy boundaries with people around you; and it takes practice, especially when a practice of self love was never taught to you.

2. MEDITATION.

I usually get a lot of eye-rolling around this one. I wouldn’t even bother listing meditation or any of my tips unless I have personally implemented these practices into my FABULOUS life. Meditation has been around for a very long time, and it’s widely known that mindfulness meditation can generate a sense of awareness, peacefulness, and a calming demeanor. Certain types of meditation are backed by scientific evidence of mind and body- altering elements that literally can change a person’s life. If you’re not accustomed to meditation practice, start small. Just 5 minutes in the morning to let your mind be still and listen to whatever comes up for you. Setting a timer can be helpful and playing soft background music is a good place to start. Gradually add more time as until you get to 15 or 20 minutes. If you really want to take a deep dive here, I have many resources and personal favorites I’m happy to share. You can also find many resources online and in various apps on your phone. Start today and trust me, FABULOUS things will start happening in your life you never saw coming.

3. GRATITUDE

Even if you’ve heard this before, you may not be practicing it daily. I’m going to let you in on a little secret…Gratitude is the bomb! Have gratitude for everything, the good, the not so good, and even the downright ugly. Gratitude is a gift we give and receive all at that same time. According to A Course in Miracles, “to give and to receive are one in the same.” Think about it; you truly don’t have one without the other. Each morning, before you check your texts or social media, take a few minutes to express your gratitude for the people in your life (even those who are there to teach you something), the comfort of your bed, the smell of coffee brewing, or simply for the fact that you’re still breathing. Having an attitude of gratitude can quickly shift a bad mood into one of appreciation and joy. And what’s more FABULOUS than the feeling of joy?

 

Michele Heffron, Divorce Coach, Life Strategist

 

4. REWRITE YOUR STORY

Get yourself a blank notebook or journal, one that looks and feels special to you. Start writing. This can be in the form of a daily journal; a place to spill out your feelings, to write out your gratitude, goals, affirmations, or your story. This is for your eyes only unless you choose to share. If the story you tell yourself solicits the feeling of anger, pain, shame, or makes you feel like a victim (certainly not FABULOUS), use this beautiful book to rewrite your story, to create a better future for yourself, making you the most FABULOUS version of you you’ve ever known. If you don’t feel comfortable writing, especially when it comes to heartfelt feelings, just try jotting down a sentence or two each day. After time, you’ll become more comfortable with this life-changing practice, and in a snap, you will become that new and improved version of yourself in real life.

5. MOVE YOUR BODY

Your journey from fine to FABULOUS must include some form of body movement. Your body craves it and deserves it! This doesn’t mean you need to hit the gym or start yoga practice unless that’s what brings you joy. It simply means do something. Get outside for a walk around the block or your favorite trail. Get outside and breathe in some fresh air and if possible, enjoy the sounds of nature, give yourself this gift of time. If weather conditions or city living makes walking outdoors difficult, find another outlet. I have a friend who started taking Salsa lessons and is hooked! Another friend started taking Pickleball lessons at her local YMCA and has developed a whole new circle of playful “Picklers” and never misses the opportunity to play. And still another, gathered a group of work buddies who dedicate their lunch hours to walking together three times a week.  

 

 

6. CELEBRATE

Every little win in life moves us closer to FABULOUS. Each time you make a little progress, establish a ritual of celebration. The changes may seem small and incremental, but honestly, if you make the non-negotiable decision to get yourself out of the ho-hum feeling of fine to see just how FABULOUS life can get, you will begin to experience life in a much different way almost immediately. And when you do, it’s time to celebrate you. This can be anything from expressing gratitude, picking a flower from the garden, treating yourself to something special or going big and taking a trip to get away from your everyday surroundings.

7. BUBBLES & BATH

Create the feeling of a luxury spa in your own home. It’s amazing how a relaxing warm bubble bath in the evening (or any time of day) can change your perspective on life. With the intention of feeling fabulous, turn on some relaxing music, light some scented candles, turn down the lights, and step into a warm, luxurious bath to take yourself away from the mundane for just a little while. Let your mind drift away from all your woes and troubles of the day and visualize the fabulous life that would really delight you! If you’re feeling extravagant, pour a glass of wine and indulge in a soothing facial mask. This is a wonderful, easy, and inexpensive way to celebrate your FABULOUS self.

8. ENVIRONMENT

Spruce up your surroundings. Nothing screams fine like old, faded throw pillows, tattered towels, and stacks of useless clutter. If you’re like most of us, you’ve accumulated closets, drawers, bookcases, and spaces filled with unused and usually unneeded stuff. Your surroundings have a direct effect on your sense of self and when you’re transitioning from fine to FABULOUS, you’re going to want to take a hard look at how you are really treating yourself. Schedule a day, a weekend, or an entire month dedicated to decluttering. You will find that the more you declutter and clean up your surroundings, the more you will declutter and clear up your mind. If you can’t bring yourself to part with “something you might need down the road” enlist the help of a “real” friend and hire a professional to help you discard the old and make room for something better.

9. PAMPER YOURSELF

One of my first coaches challenged me to treat myself to something special every time I reached a benchmark goal or experienced a breakthrough in my evolution. This one goes hand in hand with CELEBRATE but takes it a step further so at end of every 90 days, I would buy myself something special, take myself out for a glass of champagne, or book a special skincare treatment at my favorite spa. Taking a couple of hours out of my day to luxuriate in the care of a skilled esthetician like my friend Noreen Siao at her spa in Bellevue, WA always snaps me back into feeling FABULOUS at the end of a hectic day. Whether you love a spa treatment, an afternoon of shopping, or a special night out, take the time to invest in your FABULOUSNESS by pampering yourself.

10. GO BIG!

Taking yourself away from your usual routine is sure to open up opportunities to help you move from fine to FABULOUS. Make it non-negotiable to take yourself away from the humdrum daily monotony and go someplace, even if it’s just the next town over. If this is a foreign concept, there’s hope. The first time took myself away I rented a tiny, dog-friendly Airbnb up on a nearby island and spent 3 glorious January days with my dog, walking on the beach, reading by the fire, journaling, and visualizing my future. I didn’t have much money back then, but I knew if I could get away, I could start moving my life in the direction I truly desired. And I knew I wanted my life to be FABULOUS. Now, I take at least two European trips per year along with others closer to home. I have built a network of FABULOUS friends globally who love and support me and I’m always open to the next adventure. If you’re looking for something really special to make you feel FABULOUS, check out my friend, Wendy Harrop and join her for a specially curated trip to the South of France!   

Let’s take a stand against being, doing and having FINE in our lives and let’s strive for Fabulous! 

This is your one and only life here on this spinning globe of possibilities and you deserve Fabulous relationships, Fabulous careers, Fabulous finances. Fabulous Freedom! 

Whatever Fabulous means to you, I guarantee you are meant for it. 

Stop settling for fine; start your FABULOUS life today!  

Michèle Heffron
Michèle Heffron, Life, Relationship and Divorce Coach

 

Michèle Heffron – Helping women get to the heart of who they are and what they’re meant for 

A certified life, relationship, and divorce coach who draws on her own life experiences with divorce, career transitions, money issues, and relationship dynamics to help other people navigate through their own life transitions. Michèle’s personal belief in the power of coaching is a living testament to what’s possible for us all when we simply let things go, ask for help, and open up our hearts to see what else is possible. Whether faced with something as monumental as a divorce, becoming an empty-nester, or simply looking for what’s next in life, Michèle guides her clients through the process of transformation by listening, asking questions (the kind your girlfriends would never ask), and provides a safe, nonjudgemental space for them to share and express feelings while they gain clarity about their path forward in their new life.  Book a free consultation to learn more Michèle’s Calendar 

Visit www.micheleheffron.com  

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