“Daddy, I want it now!” whined Veruca Salt throughout the 1971 classic film, Willy Wonka & the Chocolate Factory. I often wondered why Salt couldn’t wait a day and just ask her dad to give Mr. Wonka a call to talk about the golden goose. If she’d have just had some PATIENCE and enjoyed the … Read more
I seriously want to hug the woman who sent me the e-mail below! Like almost every newly separated person, she is fearful of the unknown, sad, in a way, and lonely. But, she ends her e-mail with, “I am working on myself.” Wow. This is the best thing she can say and do right now. … Read more
Have you ever done a kickboxing class? I’d highly recommend it as a tool for coping with divorce. When I was getting divorced several years ago, punching air or punching a bag really did it for me. It helped me get out all my anger, frustration, and even sadness. Punching made me feel strong and … Read more
I can’t speak for every divorce, but what I see so often in newly separated couples is pretty common: the ex-husband has a girlfriend soon after the couple decides to get divorced and/or separates. Regardless of who wanted the divorce, the guy usually ends up in a relationship right away. I know I’m generalizing, so … Read more
From a recently separated reader: I’m going through a divorce after 21 years of marriage and want to know how to survive divorce. Will I survive? I felt strong until we sold our house and I actually moved out. I’m sick, sad, and very depressed. I don’t know who I am without him and I … Read more
Read the e-mail I received from a woman wondering how to start a separation. I felt like the best way to give her advice was to give her a “To-do list.” Hi Jackie, Today’s been a rough day–my husband just told me (after 14 years of marriage) that he plans to leave me after he’s … Read more
There are so many emotional benefits of having a dog, especially during or after divorce, and that’s what I’d like to share in this article. Believe me when I tell you that I was never a dog person. I didn’t dislike dogs, but other than a casual “courtesy pet” when I saw my friends’ dogs, … Read more
From a reader: How do I rebuild my life after divorce? I’ve sunken into a deep depression and feel scared about starting over after divorce at 40. I’ve been with my husband for over 13 years and I found out that this is the third time he has cheated on me. Prior it was Internet/phone … Read more
Do people get divorced and never look back? Some do. But I think most divorced men and women spend weeks, months, years, and even decades in some cases, rehashing things that happened in their marriage, looking back and second guessing decisions they made before, during and after their divorce. Some wonder if they gave up … Read more
Of all the emotions a person can feel while going through a divorce–fear, sadness, guilt, self-pity, anger, and resentment, one of the worst ones might be frustration. Frustration during divorce is very hard to cope with. Why? Because frustration during divorce stems from situations in which you have no control. Frustration happens when you feel … Read more
I’m a divorced mom who has been divorced almost 2 years. My two young daughters and I moved into a small 2 bedroom apartment shortly after the divorce and have been living there for a couple years. Yesterday I put in a bid on a condo. I should feel proud of myself and happy, but … Read more
I have 3 words for those who can’t cope with divorce. Here they are: Enjoy. Each. Day. Why these three words? Here’s the story. A reader commented on one of my articles, “divorce is a fate worse than death.” Now, my gut reaction to this statement was that this reader has obviously never experienced … Read more
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