Relationship Problems? You’re Not Crazy And You’re Not Alone

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By Jackie Pilossoph, Creator and Editor-in-chief, Divorced Girl Smiling site, podcast and app, Love Essentially columnist and author

In this week’s Love Essentially column, I write about what I learned interviewing therapist, David Klow on relationship problems, and how the problems you think are unique to you aren’t.

If you’re having a relationship problem, it’s probably more common than you think by Jackie Pilossoph for Chicago Tribune Media Group

For 13 years, David Klow has been working as an individual and couples’ therapist. The Chicago-based licensed marriage and family therapist, who is also a professor at The Family Institute at Northwestern University, said session after session, he hears common themes.



Clients “all say similar things in regards to loneliness, disconnection with life, pain in relationships and feeling un-valued,” said Klow. “They are hard on themselves and they think they are horrible.”

Klow said there’s a question almost every client asks him: “Am I crazy?”

“They think there is something wrong with them, and that what they are experiencing falls outside of what they think is normal or healthy in human life,” Klow said.


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Two years ago, in an attempt to answer, “Am I crazy?” Klow began writing letters to his clients.

Click here to read the rest of the article, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press.

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    Divorced Girl Smiling is here to empower, connect and inspire you. Jackie Pilossoph is the creator and Editor-In-Chief of Divorced Girl Smiling, the site, the podcast and the app. A former television journalist and newspaper features reporter, Pilossoph is also the author of four novels and the writer of her weekly relationship column, Love Essentially. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism and lives in Chicago with her two teenagers. The author of the novels, Divorced Girl Smiling and Free Gift With Purchase, Pilossoph also writes the weekly dating and relationships advice column, “Love Essentially”, published in the Chicago Tribune Pioneer Press and the Chicago Tribune online. Additionally, she is a Huffington Post contributor. Pilossoph holds a Masters degree in journalism from Boston University.

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